Sheltering in place for months is taking a toll on mental health. We’re not engaging in many of the things that create stability and happiness. We don’t have clear facts about when it will end or what life will look like a month from now so we can’t...
A really common statement that I hear in my office when dealing with couples is, “When things get tough, all I need is for you to hold me.” That’s a request for emotional safety. So why is it so hard for our partners to do this? It’s about...
Okay, I am not literally talking about being an orphan. What I mean by “not having a mother” is when your parents are physically or emotionally absent. Maybe you were a latchkey kid. Maybe you had a helicopter mom. This can happen if your mom was...
Do you have resting bitch face (RBF)? Don’t know what that is? Here are some symptoms: people frequently ask you to smile more people think you’re angry or sad even when you’re not your friends tell you that when they first saw you, they thought you were a...
If you’re in an environment of disrespect, it can make it really hard for you to function. This is really stressful. There are some thing you can do to make it easier. Here are some tips for handling invalidating comments. Give responses that: reflect YOUR...
There is a push for business owners to make a public statement to proclaim how we are dealing with racism by working to change systemic racism, educating ourselves about how to not be racist, and changing policies to more make services and work opportunities available...
I was recently slammed by a war veteran for saying that post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) can be cured. He said I was irresponsible for giving the hope to the hopeless. Apparently someone – or maybe lots of someones – who treat soldiers is telling them that PTSD...
Everybody’s got tragedies. Everyone has greatness – some big and some small. Not all of us survive our tragedies as we can live our lives as victims. Not everyone reaches their greatness because we can get stuck in our stories. The way around this is to embrace your...
Psst! I have a confession to make that I think everyone needs to hear. I am really embarrassed to admit that I worked as a domestic violence advocate and rape crisis counselor for a while without knowing that a rape survivor could experience arousal and orgasm. Yep!...
I’m not a big believer in labels. I think that people live up to their labels. Most labels we give each other and ourselves aren’t very empowering, so I don’t like putting people in negative boxes. But even a stopped watch is right twice a day, and sometimes...
