Why It’s Healthy to Accept Your Shadow

Why It’s Healthy to Accept Your Shadow

The longer I am a trauma therapist, the more deeply I believe in accepting your Shadow. So much pain comes from wanting to not face reality. It’s like we will do anything to avoid guilt, shame, and pain. We push those things into Shadow and unconsciously act...
35 Self Love Quotes to Pick You Up

35 Self Love Quotes to Pick You Up

Who doesn’t love quotes? Quotes encapsulate an inspiring thought that can motivate you, remind you of your purpose, remind you who you are, and keep you going. Self-love has to be cultivated. It comes from your thoughts and your habits. If you need some help...
Why Am I Betraying Myself?

Why Am I Betraying Myself?

If you think about it, there are two main reasons why people betray themselves. 1) for approval and 2) to belong or fit in. It can make you feel like you walk around wearing a mask. Neither feeling is generally worth the loss of self that it costs you. Acting for...
7 Ways to Cope With Pandemic Induced Depression

7 Ways to Cope With Pandemic Induced Depression

Sheltering in place for months is taking a toll on mental health. We’re not engaging in many of the things that create stability and happiness. We don’t have clear facts about when it will end or what life will look like a month from now so we can’t...
Want Better Connections? Do This.

Want Better Connections? Do This.

A really common statement that I hear in my office when dealing with couples is, “When things get tough, all I need is for you to hold me.” That’s a request for emotional safety. So why is it so hard for our partners to do this? It’s about...
The Hidden Pain of Not Having a Healthy Mother

The Hidden Pain of Not Having a Healthy Mother

Okay, I am not literally talking about being an orphan. What I mean by “not having a mother” is when your parents are physically or emotionally absent. Maybe you were a latchkey kid. Maybe you had a helicopter mom. This can happen if your mom was...
Is Resting Bitch Face (RBF) a Real Thing?

Is Resting Bitch Face (RBF) a Real Thing?

Do you have resting bitch face (RBF)? Don’t know what that is? Here are some symptoms:  people frequently ask you to smile more people think you’re angry or sad even when you’re not your friends tell you that when they first saw you, they thought you were a...
Tips for Handling Invalidating Comments

Tips for Handling Invalidating Comments

If you’re in an environment of disrespect, it can make it really hard for you to function. This is really stressful. There are some thing you can do to make it easier. Here are some tips for handling invalidating comments. Give responses that: reflect YOUR...
How I Am Dealing With Racism

How I Am Dealing With Racism

There is a push for business owners to make a public statement to proclaim how we are dealing with racism by working to change systemic racism, educating ourselves about how to not be racist, and changing policies to more make services and work opportunities available...
Is PTSD Incurable?

Is PTSD Incurable?

I was recently slammed by a war veteran for saying that post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) can be cured. He said I was irresponsible for giving the hope to the hopeless. Apparently someone – or maybe lots of someones – who treat soldiers is telling them that PTSD...