Going to therapy can be anxiety provoking. You may not know what to talk about from week to week. You may have some ideas, but once you get there, you forget it all. This can make progress slow and difficult. Want some guidance? Here are some suggestions about what to...
Emotional intelligence is a hot buzzword in therapy offices and corporate interview panels. In this article, I will explore what is emotional intelligence, why is it so hot, challenges while developing emotional intelligence, and what to do about them. What is...
I am back on social media. (Follow me here and here). One of the first things that I saw was a picture of a person who looked beat. The caption said, “Me after pretending to have it all together” or something like that. I suspect that people do this to...
Think you have ADHD/ADD? You’re not alone. In this article, I will shine a light on why you probably don’t have ADD/ADHD and let you know what might be going on instead. Picture this: hidden trauma refers to deep emotional wounds that may not be...
Being easy to live with opens up so many opportunities in your life. It makes you happier, the people around you happier, opens up possibilities for job opportunities and relationships. There are so many other benefits as well. Let’s take a look at the qualities...
What’s a Narcissist? Does a nice narcissist exist? If you’ve read enough of my articles or listened to my podcast, you know that I am a stickler for definitions. Narcissism has become a generic term for any type of abusive relationship, so let me start...
The Surgeon General’s Advisory on Loneliness is an eye opening look at the impact of social isolation. Loneliness impacts physical health, mental health, economic productivity, and happiness. Since over 50% of American reported feeling lonely before the...
There’s “coping” and then there is “overwhelm.” Coping skills may not work for crisis situations. You may need something with a little more power. For those situations, here are 7 tips for coping when you’re overwhelmed. You...
Every one of us is called upon to become the hero of our own life. Joseph Campbell, an American writer and professor, distilled the typical outline of how this plays out in story and in real life. We call that path “The Hero’s Journey.” It’s a...
When it comes to healing the shame of abuse, the biggest hurdle is breaking through the idea that the abuse is somehow our fault. The experiencer seems to feel that they should have, and could have, prevented it. If they hadn’t done this, or had done that, it...