Everybody hits a wall sometimes. It’s that feeling you get when you need something or someone to hold on to. You feel that you’re out of gas and don’t have one more smile, conversation, or “atta girl” left in you. Maybe you don’t...
Healthy relationships thrive in an environment of trust. Whether we’re talking about parent/child, teacher/student, neighbors or lovers, we all feel better and more connected where there is trust. Unfortunately, we may have learned behaviors that destroy love...
I am surprised by how many people are in abusive relationships and don’t know it. If you grew up in a household where the line between love and abuse was blurry, you might learn that that is what love looks like. So you either love that way or accept love that...
The longer I am a trauma therapist, the more deeply I believe in accepting your Shadow. So much pain comes from wanting to not face reality. It’s like we will do anything to avoid guilt, shame, and pain. We push those things into Shadow and unconsciously act...
Who doesn’t love quotes? Quotes encapsulate an inspiring thought that can motivate you, remind you of your purpose, remind you who you are, and keep you going. Self-love has to be cultivated. It comes from your thoughts and your habits. If you need some help...
If you think about it, there are two main reasons why people betray themselves. 1) for approval and 2) to belong or fit in. It can make you feel like you walk around wearing a mask. Neither feeling is generally worth the loss of self that it costs you. Acting for...
Sheltering in place for months is taking a toll on mental health. We’re not engaging in many of the things that create stability and happiness. We don’t have clear facts about when it will end or what life will look like a month from now so we can’t...
A really common statement that I hear in my office when dealing with couples is, “When things get tough, all I need is for you to hold me.” That’s a request for emotional safety. So why is it so hard for our partners to do this? It’s about...
Okay, I am not literally talking about being an orphan. What I mean by “not having a mother” is when your parents are physically or emotionally absent. Maybe you were a latchkey kid. Maybe you had a helicopter mom. This can happen if your mom was...
Do you have resting bitch face (RBF)? Don’t know what that is? Here are some symptoms: people frequently ask you to smile more people think you’re angry or sad even when you’re not your friends tell you that when they first saw you, they thought you were a...
