divorce

You Can’t Divorce Your Family

The founding of America led to the change of some pretty cool ideas. For the first time, a nation embraced the idea that a person could be valued for their achievements rather than his family name. A person could worship in the way that his heart believed rather than in the way that the state prescribed. […]

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We Teach People How To Treat Us

Whenever you’re having problems with other people, it’s time to ask yourself, “What am I putting out there?” While it’s true that you can’t control the thoughts, feelings, or behaviors of other people, you do have influence over how they treat you. Why? Because we teach people how to treat us. Yep, that’s right. To […]

I don't like you

What Does “I Don’t Like You, but I Love You” Mean?

What does it mean when someone says, “I don’t like you, but I love you?” It might seem like love can’t really happen without liking someone, but it does. How? Relationships can be complicated. You’ve got two moving parts (people) who aren’t necessarily moving at the same speed or in the same direction all the […]

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Dating While Introverted

Meeting new people can be really anxiety provoking. Add in the hope of making a love match and the stress level can go through the roof. If you’re introverted, this can feel impossible. Hang on. Here are some tips for dating while introverted. Don’t Date Strangers Small talk and getting-to-know-you chatter can be an energy […]

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“But He Never Hit Me”

“…but he never hit me” Those are the words that many *women say when confronted with the idea that they are in an abusive relationship. Abuse doesn’t have to be physical. In fact, a lot of physical abuse is dismissed because it doesn’t result in blood or broken bones. Touching in anger of any sort […]

unconditional love

Two Ways to Love

There are two ways to love: conditionally and unconditionally. Conditional love is not really love. Love doesn’t hurt. It doesn’t demand. It’s peaceful. It sustains. When people say love hurts, they aren’t talking about love. They are talking about something else – quite possibly conditional love. We know conditional love because the good, positive, affirming […]

attraction

Why You Hate What Initially Attracted You To Your Partner

Have you ever been in a relationship where you met someone whom you thought was so cool. You really loved something about him or her and then later it was the thing that you caused the worst problems? Ever wonder why you hate what initially attracted you to your partner? Here are some examples of […]

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Love Increases When Judgment Decreases

It’s easy to fall in love, isn’t it? You meet someone with whom you experience wild chemistry. You can’t get enough of him. He can’t get enough of you. It doesn’t matter what you do, you just want to be together. And then something happens to change that. Instead of pushing everything aside to be […]

couples therapy

When Couple’s Counseling is Not Advisable

As a therapist, I am a huge fan of couple’s counseling. It can help you to grow emotionally, become more effective at work and in relationships, and be happier. There are times when it’s not a great idea however. Therapy is about making repairs and positive changes. Sometimes that is not possible. Here is a look […]

relationships

How to Stop Failing in Relationships

Do you want to know how to stop failing in relationships? Read on! There are some really easy tips that anyone can achieve. Once you make a few small changes, you can be a relationship “winner.” Change the Definition of Failure Often when people define themselves as a “relationship failure,” they mean that they engage […]