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How to Get a Win/Win Solution Every Time

If you want your relationships to thrive, you have to be able to deal with conflict. Getting to a win/win solution always makes all parties happy because everyone gets what he wants. So how do you do that? Let’s take a look. Be Willing to Talk If one person is not willing to talk, you […]

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How To Do Stuff

There are a lot of people who don’t know how to do stuff. I am talking about every day life skills that help your life run smoothly and easily. Maybe they weren’t taught. It could be that they don’t have enough experience with doing new things that they don’t have context to figure it out. […]

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Your Feelings Are Not a Reflection of Reality

Your feelings are not a reflection of reality. They are a reflection of your thoughts, lifestyle (diet, sleep, whether or not you exercise, etc.), and emotional habits. If an acorn falls on my head and I think, “The sky is going to fall,” I respond with fear. If an acorn falls on my head and […]

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Be Consistent

Would you prefer to go to a restaurant with the same menu every time or one that changes daily? When you are in need, are you more likely to call on a friend who is always supportive or one who is only there for you sometimes? Would you rather be evaluated for work performance based […]

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Loving People Who Are Hard to Love

If you read a lot of my blog posts, you see a lot of “Let it go,” “You gotta have healthy boundaries,” and “You’re responsible for what shows up in your life” types of posts. It may give the impression that if something or someone isn’t working for you, it’s time to cut it loose. Before […]

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Context Matters

A lot of people want a formula to live life. They want a plan to follow that helps them succeed, find happiness, and stay safe. The problem with that is that even the most sound advice won’t work all the time because context matters. Take a look at these examples from well known proverbs. You’re never […]

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Take Out the Trash

We’re coming to the end of a 9 year where the universal energy favors ending things for good to make way for what’s coming. For many, this has been tough. It can be hard to let go – even when you know it’s the best thing. Everyone has the same 24 hours in a day. We […]

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The Quick and Dirty Method to Learning Self Love

Humans are programmed from birth to look outside themselves for validation and conform to expectations. This leads to separation from our true selves (because we learn early on to play a role) and not knowing or loving ourselves. Once we become aware of this, many of us spend the rest of our lives trying to […]

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Want To Have a Happy Holiday? Let Go of Expectations

Do you know why so many people are unhappy on their birthday, Valentine’s Day, or Christmas? It’s because of an idea that something didn’t happen the way it was “supposed to.” Doesn’t that sound like a really easy thing to fix? It is. If you want to have a happy holiday, let go of expectations. […]

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How to Deal With Being a Black Sheep

There is a black sheep in every crowd, isn’t there? This person who just doesn’t fit into a place where they are expected to feel at home. Maybe it’s their family, sports team, classroom or church. If this is you, how do you deal with being a black sheep? Before I get into that, let’s […]