I get to

“I Have to” vs. “I Get To”

If you want to make one simple change that can alter the way you move through life, change “I have to” to “I get to.” Stress is caused by trying, feeling put upon, hurrying, and a lack of choice. When you have to do things, you can go through life feeling like a beast of […]

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How to Make Every Date a Success

There is one thing you need to make every date a success. It’s not manners, grooming, a hot body, timeliness, nice clothes, or straight teeth. It’s authenticity. Here is how this can help. You Know Right Away Whether or Not it’s Clicking If you are focused on authenticity vs. “Does she like me?”, you are […]

mindset

Argue For Your Limitations and They Are Yours

Have you ever said, “I can’t because…” the economy is bad my boss doesn’t like me my parents were mentally ill I’m too (insert adjective such as short, tall, young, old, etc). my mom didn’t love me my dad was an alcoholic I’m not (insert adjective like good, smart, worthy, or clever) enough “Argue for […]

numbness

Numbness, Dissociation, and Feelings

Do you feel asleep at the wheel? Do you miss subtle cues about what’s true or how people feel that other people seem to “just know?” Are you feeling numb, depressed, or just not here? Maybe it’s because you’re numb or dissociated. You can’t have a full, vibrant life if you are not in your body. […]

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“You Saw Me!”

One day I was in conversation with someone who suddenly burst out crying and said, “You saw me!” In that moment it touched me how infrequently that happens. I was also struck by how important it is to be seen. How often do we give that to others? How often do we allow others to […]

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Practice Compassion

Compassion is a feeling of deep sympathy and sorrow for another who is stricken by misfortune, accompanied by a strong desire to alleviate the suffering. It’s always effective to practice compassion when we encounter someone who is suffering. It heals wounds and spreads love. In the space of all that, humanity thrives. When You Judge […]

sensitivity

Take Responsibility for Your Sensitivity

Are you one of these people who can just feel everything? You notice when there is a mood shift in the room. You pick up other people’s energy and can’t tell if it’s yours or theirs? You get down when you’re in the presence of people who are also down or just oozing their energy […]

qigong

Five Easy Qigong Exercises to Improve Health

All my clients know that I love qigong. It’s easy to learn some movements that anyone can do right now. The benefits show up pretty quickly. You don’t need fancy equipment or a  lot of space to get started. Movements can be adapted to any fitness level. Qigong benefits the mind, body, and spirit. You […]

illness

Accept Yourself, Not Your Dysfunction

*Twenty-five percent of Americans under the age of eighteen have at least one chronic disease. A Mayo clinic study found that 70% of the total population is on at least one prescription drug. That’s a lot of sick people. The odd reaction to that seems to be an acceptance that illness is normal because it’s […]