New Beginnings Are Often Disguised As Painful Endings
Full moon eclipses are times of massive upheaval. They can dredge up old, forgotten stuff or things you’ve been avoiding. It’s Nature’s way of giving us a push to get on with it. The things to remember about times like these is that “New beginnings are often disguised as painful endings.” ~Lao Tzu
So we can focus on where we’ve been and what we’re leaving behind, or we can focus on where we are going. The ride tends to be more enjoyable if we look ahead.
Everything in life ends: kindergarten, labor pains, toothaches, first kisses. Positive or negative, nothing lasts forever. We experience endings and beginnings all the time and survive them.
When we realized this, it may make the next one easier. It may not make the experience less painful, but it can make the process smoother and keep it moving so we don’t get bogged down in indecisiveness, second guessing, grief, or guilt.
That’s one of the keys to having new experiences. Just keep moving. It’s easier to keep moving if you don’t stop, turn around, or look back. Before you know it, the sun is up and it’s a new day.
If it’s not so easy for you, here are some tips.
- have something to look forward to each day. It doesn’t have to be a big thing. Just put something fun, relaxing, or soothing in front of you like a walk in the park with the dog, lunch with a friend, relaxing in the jacuzzi, or time alone to read a book.
- don’t forget your self care! It’s easy to let go of the little things that we do to stay stable, like eating healthy meals, sleeping 8 hours, or exercising. These are super important to maintaining equilibrium.
- don’t isolate! You may feel like you’re too much of a downer to be around people, but it only gets worse if you isolate. Choose to be around people you don’t have to entertain or put on happy face for.
- hold yourself accountable to healing by telling someone your goals. It’s sometimes harder to brush off a commitment to yourself than others. Enlisting their aid may keep you on track.
- don’t rush your process. It takes as long as it takes. If you move through too quickly, you may be shoving things under the carpet that will only be exposed later. While this may seem desirable, if it causes you problems between now and then, it may be more effective to just deal with it now.
- let the experience change you. If you emerge the same person, have you really healed?
It’s okay for things to end. Embrace it.