Being easy to live with opens up so many opportunities in your life. It makes you happier, the people around you happier, opens up possibilities for job opportunities and relationships. There are so many other benefits as well. Let’s take a look at the qualities...
What’s a Narcissist? Does a nice narcissist exist? If you’ve read enough of my articles or listened to my podcast, you know that I am a stickler for definitions. Narcissism has become a generic term for any type of abusive relationship, so let me start...
The Surgeon General’s Advisory on Loneliness is an eye opening look at the impact of social isolation. Loneliness impacts physical health, mental health, economic productivity, and happiness. Since over 50% of American reported feeling lonely before the...
There’s “coping” and then there is “overwhelm.” Coping skills may not work for crisis situations. You may need something with a little more power. For those situations, here are 7 tips for coping when you’re overwhelmed. You...
Every one of us is called upon to become the hero of our own life. Joseph Campbell, an American writer and professor, distilled the typical outline of how this plays out in story and in real life. We call that path “The Hero’s Journey.” It’s a...
When it comes to healing the shame of abuse, the biggest hurdle is breaking through the idea that the abuse is somehow our fault. The experiencer seems to feel that they should have, and could have, prevented it. If they hadn’t done this, or had done that, it...
It’s funny. When someone becomes anxious or depressed, we want them to go to a counselor to sort themselves out. It’s their problem. Only mental illness isn’t a personal issue. It’s a social one. In some cases, this means that the person who is...
If you are, or have been, in a relationship with a narcissist, you may have experienced stalking after the breakup. Lots of people know about this. But did you know that there is also narcissistic pre-stalking? Yep. What’s Narcissistic Pre-Stalking? It’s...
Are you a long time counseling client who hasn’t really changed your life a whole lot? Maybe you still go because you don’t know what else to do. In this article, I’ll review some ideas about what to do when counseling doesn’t help. See a...
People often ask me for Richmond area referrals. Here is a list of helping professionals you can try. If someone is not on the list, it doesn’t mean that I don’t recommend them. It could be that I am unfamiliar with them and their work. Keep in mind that...
