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minding your own business

Why You Should Mind Your Own Business

Want to improve your life, your relationships, and your boundaries? You can do that by making just one radical change - minding your own business. Life's tough enough just carrying your own load. When you take on other people's worries, battles, and emotions, it gets overwhelming really quick. It's okay to draw a line. Not sure how? There is an easy way to tell if something is your business. Just ask yourself does this directly affect me? If it does, participate in what's happening and handle it. If it doesn't, you can choose to sit it out. Sounds easy, doesn't it? Here are some examples. You're upset with your boss for changing your schedule at the last minute. This means you have to reschedule an appointment that you waited three weeks...

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take responsibility

How to “Take Responsibility For What’s Yours”

In my previous post, I said that one way to reduce relationship friction is to take responsibility for what's yours. This is a part of having great boundaries and being effective. But what does this look like exactly? "Taking responsibility" means that you're taking charge of a situation and doing what needs to be done. It's very common for some people to play the Hero, Rescuer, or Mother role and do things for others or over give. "What's yours" means allowing others to fight their own battles, clean up their own messes, and do their own growing. If it's yours, own it. Everyone needs to grow up. It's natural. If you aren't taking responsibility for what's yours, you are short changing yourself of the benefits of your life experiences. Here...

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