When in Doubt, Love It Out


Everyone has moments (days, years?) when they just don’t know what to do. When in doubt, love it out. Love is never wrong. The effect can sometimes be instantaneous, and what you send out comes back to you.

If someone has done you wrong, love it out. It doesn’t matter that they were wrong. It doesn’t matter if they “don’t deserve” your love. It doesn’t even matter if they don’t love you. It’s not about them. It’s about you. Being in a place of doubt creates fear. Fear leads to shutting down your energy flow and making poor decisions. Love keeps the energy open and flowing and leads to a clearer head. A clearer head usually results in more effective decisions. This can create a solution that leaves you and the person who wronged you in a better space.

If your problems are more practical, say, you don’t know what to major in or you don’t know where to find a job, the answer is still “love it out.” When your doubt comes from not knowing what path to choose, there is usually a conflict between the conscious and unconscious or perhaps a conflict of values. Using the intellect to answer those questions probably won’t work so well. Open the heart. The heart knows the truth. Send love to yourself and listen to the answer.

What if the problem is loss? The answer is still to love it out. Feelings of loss focus on the past and what is no longer true. This creates a reality that you are powerless to change. Love exists in the present. It opens up feelings of appreciation for what was rather than mourns what is no longer. It helps your mind to grasp that endings are always also beginnings. Love helps those new beginnings to flourish.

What if the problem is a lack of faith in yourself? Love yourself. Heroes are made from ordinary men and women every day. Nobody knows what they are capable of until they are tested. You are stronger than you know. You just need the opportunity to prove it. Take it. Self-love will give you the drive to do what you need to do. It will propel you out of where you are so that you can get to where you want to be.

Love is the opposite of everything that makes us stuck. It is open (not shut down), giving (not withholding), fearless (not fearful), and intuitive (not intellectual). It surrenders. It doesn’t try to control. It’s honest, not delusional. It’s present, not stuck in the past or somewhere far in the future. It can get you through anything.

Do it. Don’t stop loving until the pain is gone and it’s no longer an effort to do it. When you get there, I think you will find that not only is life a lot easier, you will have gotten so much in return that you won’t want to stop.

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