Why Do I Have to Meditate Every Day?

why do I have to meditate

Have you ever thought, “Why do I have to meditate every day?” Does it feel like work sometimes? Self-care can be hard to maintain if you look at it as a chore. Let’s see if we can turn it into something that you feel enthusiastic about doing instead. Maybe then it will become something you get to do rather than something you have to do.

One of the universal laws is that everything changes. Everything has a cycle. The earth cycles around the sun once a day giving us daytime and night. The moon goes from darkness to light and back in 29.5 days. Tides change twice daily. People have cycles too. Once we finish meditating, our energy begins to change until the effect we got from our meditation practice is almost gone. If we want to maintain or grow beyond that, we have to do it again.

During the day, we change. We talk to different people, have different thoughts, and do different things. As a result, we aren’t the same people we were when we last meditated. So, no two meditation sessions are alike. The new one can help us be where we are in that moment. The last one is no longer appropriate for where we are now.

There are *two types of meditations. Yin style is an emptying that takes us into the Darkness. The first layer is one of relaxation where the noise goes away. When we go deeper, we can see things – both positive and uncomfortable – that we didn’t see before. Even deeper than that, we meet the deep peace of the Void. This is a way of checking in.

Yang style is filling and takes us into the Light. The first layer is about feeling inspiration and happiness. Light illuminates or shows us different facets of things we didn’t see before at the next layer. Finally, we can reach a level where people report “seeing God.” This is a way of zooming out and feeling our smallness in the vastness of space and time. When we see that it is all love, and we are love, this can feel very safe and humbling.

The deeper levels are transformational. The Void can empty us so that we start again at zero. Here we can feel the Oneness with all creation because there is no separation in the Void. The Light can bring us into an explosive feeling of love and Oneness in a totally different way. So meditation is a way of checking out of our physical home and tapping into our spiritual home. It’s a reminder that we are more than what is happening on this material plane. It gives us perspective.

If this kind of talk makes you uncomfortable, remember that spirituality is not necessarily religious. It’s whatever helps you to feel connected in a big way to something outside of yourself. Practicing spirituality is a form of self-care. You don’t have to invoke any god or feel that spirit is a part of it to do it and benefit from it. Or if you are a believer, by all means, visit the angels and your dearly departed while you are meditation if they pop up. Let yourself connect. If you do this a few times, you won’t be saying, “Why do I have to meditate every day?” You’ll probably be skipping off and saying, “I need to go meditate now!”

  • there are also meditations that are balancing.

Ho’oponopono: The Hawaiian Trick That Can Transform Your Life


There is a simple Hawaiian trick that can transform your life. I say “can” because it only works if you do. If you give it thirty days of sincere effort, you will see that what I say is true. Want to hear about it? It’s called ho’oponopono. It means “to make right,” and it has four simple steps.

I am sorry

Step one is “I am sorry.” When you see something that you feel is not right in yourself, someone else, or the world – this could be a headache, your spouse’s negative attitude, the homeless, or war – acknowledge that you’re having judgmental or bad feelings about it. Say “I’m sorry.” The world is what you think it is. If you see ugly, it’s coming from your mind. So you are creating this.

Things are not bad or wrong. They are as they are meant to be. There is no land of sunshine and light in this realm because that’s not how life is designed. You see, universal law states that we are always moving from a place of order to chaos and from chaos to order. That’s done to create balance. So everything really is as it should be. When we attach judgment and meaning to things, we create disharmony within ourselves. So “I’m sorry” is an acknowledgement and apology for creating that anger, resentment, or imbalance within ourselves. It’s a way to make responsibility for what is in your life in preparation to remove it.

Please forgive me

Step two asks that you forgive yourself for creating the reality as you see it. This is not a request for someone else to forgive you nor is it about you forgiving someone else. All power comes from within so you don’t need a third party’s approval and don’t need to give it to someone else. Since you created the problem, you have the power to change it.

I love you

Saying “I love you” to yourself brings you back into right relationship with Creation and yourself. Something went astray to make you see things in an ineffective way. “I love you” realigns it. Love heals. Give it to yourself. To me, the “I am sorry” digs the wrong out. “Please forgive me” heals the wound. “I love you” seals the wound. Hawaiian spiritual principles say that to love is to be happy with, so this step brings the happiness back into your life.

Thank you

This step is acknowledging that the work has been done. The change has already occurred and you don’t have to spend any more time on it. This doesn’t mean that things will come out the way that you want or expect. It just means that the healing has happened. Accept it.

Sounds really simple, doesn’t it? It is. However, sometimes simple things still need a bit of explanation to make them work seamlessly.

Here are some tips to make ho’oponopono more effective.

  • Take your time when you are starting out. Don’t rush through it. You want to get clear on what you are transforming. When you have done it a while, you won’t need to spend as much time on it, but in the beginning, go slow. It will pay off in the long run.
  • Feel what you are doing. Notice how the imbalance of what you are judging settles in your body. Feel what your body feels like when it lets go of that and realigns. Over time, this will clue you in to imbalances as they happen so that you can release them as they happen.
  • Do it often. Do it regularly. More is more. Think of it as cleaning. You don’t clean your house once and then never do it again. It requires maintenance. So does your life. A house that is regularly cleaned is easy to keep clean.
  • If it feels selfish to dwell on yourself, think about it in another way. Everything is connected. As you clean the judgments you feel about someone else, you may see your relationship with that person change. As you clean for your judgments about rape, murder, and thievery, you may see less crime. When you clean for anything, the effects ripple out into the world, so even though you are focusing on yourself, you’re actually cleaning for all of us.
  • Start the practice in a mindful space. If your mind is full of clutter and you just repeat the words, nothing will happen. You have to be present. Be clear on what you are cleaning. You have to feel the meaning behind the words. If you’re making it a “giving to get” practice, your results will be limited. Be sincere.
  • Keep it simple. It’s simple by design. It works just as it is, so don’t complicate it.
  • If you run out of things to clean on or don’t know where to start, pick a topic. Write down all the things you don’t like about it. Clean on that list.

The beauty of ho’oponopono is self responsibility. Any dis-ease that you create, you can heal. There are never any victims. There is never any need for revenge, hate, or resentment. All there is is love, forgiveness, and peace. Everyone has the power to transform right now. Why not use it? Just think of what a great world it would be if we all did a little ho’oponopono each day.

The Downside to Mindfulness


Mindfulness is all the rage now. You see it in universities, corporate America, therapy offices, as well as New Age establishments. We all hear about the benefits that come from chilling out. And why not? It’s really great stuff, right?

What you don’t hear about is the missing warning label. Yes, like all things, there can be a downside to mindfulness – you get to see your life as it is. Seriously, that’s it.

For most of us, most of the time, that’s a good thing. We all have goodness inside. Sometimes, it’s tolerable. For a few, it’s unbearable. What you haven’t dealt with is still inside of you. When you relax the pressure on a door that you’ve been holding shut, everything on the other side comes tumbling out. Maybe you feel how disconnected you really are. Maybe you face some traumatic memories from childhood. Maybe you feel bored or that your life is fairly meaningless. Mindfulness doesn’t cause that. Mindfulness exposes that. What is powerful is always potentially unstabilizing.

Learning to be mindful is not a panacea. It doesn’t give you a magic bullet to never feel pain again. It just allows you to live with more clarity so that you have a greater range of choices and experiences. If you discover overwhelming emotions or see things about yourself that you could use some help sorting out, it’s time to ask for professional help. There are things that we can do alone and things we can’t. Wisdom is about being able to tell the difference.

One of the keys to mindfulness is to be nonjudgmental. I know it’s hard to say that about something that is causing you pain, but rather than seeing mindfulness as something hurtful, you could view it as a sign that you’ve become both soft and strong enough to stop hiding from what was always there. The pain wasn’t gone. The effect was just beneath your awareness. Now you can deal with it.

If you encounter tough emotions or memories during mindfulness, you don’t have to stop doing it. Perhaps it’s just time to convert it from a self-help practice to allowing a trained professional to help. You’d do the same if you got great information from a book or video series and reached the limits of your understanding or skill, wouldn’t you?

One other word of warning – moderation is the key to everything. When I talk about “mindfulness,” I don’t necessarily mean meditation. I mean being aware. If you are using meditation to experience mindfulness, keep it to a sensible time limit. Too much of a good thing make it no longer a good thing. Water is fabulous. We all need it to live, but too much can throw your electrolytes off and kill you. Everybody needs oxygen, but too much can make your brain go haywire. The same is true with meditation. All things in moderation.



Healing Meditations


Healing meditation can be used to bring calm, tranquility, and healing to yourself, others, and the world. It can happen instantaneously or sometimes it takes a bit more time. You can spend as little as five minutes per day on it or do it for a longer period of time. Here are three examples to get you started.

Getting Started

The set up for all three are the same. To begin a healing meditation, start by sitting in a comfortable and relaxed manner. Take two or three deep breaths bringing the oxygen into your belly with slow, long exhalations. Release any concerns or preoccupations and just sink into your breath. For a few moments, feel or imagine the breath opening and warming the area of around heart until love flows there.

Loving Kindness Meditation (Metta)

Once you are centered and in a space of love, see someone who is easy to love in your mind’s eye. If you can’t think of a person in your life right now, perhaps you can choose someone who has already passed on or a pet. Think of what blessings you’d like to be true for you then say or think them as you send them to the one who is easy to love. For example, “May you be happy. May you be well. May you be prosperous. May you be loved.” Send these blessings to that person and allow yourself to feel those blessings being received. Give yourself a moment to fully sink into the intention as you hold that image in your mind.

Now think of someone whom you feel more neutral towards. Repeat the blessing above until it flows easily and has solidly connected. Be sure to send them what you want for yourself. We are all connected. You cannot receive what you withhold from others. By cultivating a loving, open heart, you not only send love into the world and heal others, you heal yourself. So send juicy, wonderful things to others.

Now think of someone who is not easy to love. Repeat the blessing above until the feeling flows easily and naturally. This may take some practice. If it doesn’t happen the first time, don’t worry. Accept it for what it is and try again later.

When that is done, do the same thing for yourself. Some people start with themselves, but I find that many people find it hard to love themselves so when I am teaching it to others, I have them start with what is easy and work towards what is hard.

Be sure to finish by sending love to the world. We’re all in this game together. We all benefit when we have the love and care from someone- even if the source is unknown and far removed from us. If, during this practice, feelings other than love flow, allow them to be as they are. This is a healing meditation. What comes up is what is there. Don’t judge it. It works even when it doesn’t go as intended.

Cloud of Color Healing Meditation

Imagine yourself surrounded by a field of positive energy. You may perceive this as a soothing color, a light, a sound, or a vibration. Now bring your breath through the top of your head as you inhale. Exhale into the earth as you think of happy, loving thoughts to increase the positive energy bubble around you.

Envision this bubble expanding outward to include the person, place, or situation that you want to help until they are also within the bubble. Imagine that the goodness inside this bubble is interacting with the energy field of this person, place or situation and changing it in a positive way.

Now imagine that the bubble responds to your positive intentions. Give it instructions on how to be helpful. Use simple directions like “Enlighten!” “Release!” “Focus!” “Center!” or “Assist!” Note, it’s important to use nonspecific words. For example, don’t send “Love me” to someone who has indicated no interest in you. Instead just send love. You don’t want to interfere with free will or manipulate an outcome. Respect the right to self-determination, trust the universe, and let go of the outcome.

The Dynamind Technique

Think of the person, place, or situation that needs a positive boost or support.

Make a statement like this: “There is a problem and that can change. We want that problem to go away, we want the condition to be healed.”

Make seven taps of your fingertips on the center of your chest, on the web part of each hand, and on the bone at the base of your neck.

Finish by inhaling breath through your crown as you think happy thoughts. Exhale into the earth.