rites of passage

The Cost of the Loss of Rites of Passage

Most cultures have rites of passage that delineate youth from adulthood, being single to being married, and being alive to being dead. Modern society has rebelled against the traditions and restrictions and has largely done away with such things. Where they do still exist, they are so watered down as to be meaningless. In doing […]

I get to

“I Have to” vs. “I Get To”

If you want to make one simple change that can alter the way you move through life, change “I have to” to “I get to.” Stress is caused by trying, feeling put upon, hurrying, and a lack of choice. When you have to do things, you can go through life feeling like a beast of […]

gratitude letter

Gratitude Letter to My Clients

There are so many people I am grateful for. So I want to write a public gratitude letter to my clients past and present. It’s long overdue. Dear Trooper, You rock. You show up. That inspires me. You’re willing to be vulnerable, say hard things, sit in your feelings, and do some really hard work. […]

why do I have to meditate

Why Do I Have to Meditate Every Day?

Have you ever thought, “Why do I have to meditate every day?” Does it feel like work sometimes? Self care can be hard to maintain if you look at is as a chore. Let’s see if we can turn it into something that you feel enthusiastic about doing instead. Maybe then it will become something […]

what's love got to do with it

What’s Love Got to Do With It?

Jane Austen was the queen of “What’s love got to do with it?” Perhaps that is why her stories still resonate a hundred years after they were written. Let’s take a look. There is no doubt that Mariane Dashwood and John Willoughby love each other. Love was not enough to make him stay with her. […]

I didn't sign up for this

“I Didn’t Sign Up For This!”

There may be times in our lives when we throw up our hands and say, “I didn’t sign on for this!” It’s normal to have a pity party when things don’t go as planned. When the pouting is done, there are three things you can do. Deal with it anyway, walk away, or blame and […]

vulnerable to an affair

Are You Vulnerable to an Affair?

Are you vulnerable to an affair? Any relationship can suffer from infidelity, but there are some factors that make cheating more likely. Let’s take a look at what they are. Marriage vs. Cohabitating Did you know that a study by Pepper Schwartz and Philip Blumstein showed that long term married people are less likely to […]

make every date a success

How to Make Every Date a Success

There is one thing you need to make every date a success. It’s not manners, grooming, a hot body, timeliness, nice clothes, or straight teeth. It’s authenticity. Here is how this can help. You Know Right Away Whether or Not it’s Clicking If you are focused on authenticity vs. “Does she like me?”, you are […]

mindset

Argue For Your Limitations and They Are Yours

Have you ever said, “I can’t because…” the economy is bad my boss doesn’t like me my parents were mentally ill I’m too (insert adjective such as short, tall, young, old, etc). my mom didn’t love me my dad was an alcoholic I’m not (insert adjective like good, smart, worthy, or clever) enough “Argue for […]

mental diet

What’s Your Mental Diet Like?

We hear a lot about how important our diet is. We are encouraged to eat clean, reduce sugar, and eat in moderation. Most of us know the benefits of watching our diet, but what about our mental diet? How much attention do you pay to what your mind consumes? What are you feeding your brain? […]