need to know

Give Up The Need to Know

Curiosity is a great thing. It leads to new inventions and breakthrough discoveries. But some things that are unknowable.

  • Why did he leave me?
  • How could I not know my friend was going to commit suicide?
  • Does she love me?
  • Is God real?
  • What happens when we die?
  • Why do I feel this way?
  • Why was I given this life instead of some other life?
  • Is there life on Mars?

If you let your mind spend time pondering the unknowable, you can drive yourself crazy. Why not give up the need to know?

Some of the answers that you think you really need to know aren’t that important. For instance, if you were molested by a family member, you may think you really need to know why this person did that. I promise you, you don’t. You can heal and move on with your life without ever knowing. It won’t give you closure. It won’t give you satisfaction. Answers are often just a stepping stone to more questions.

What about questions like, “Am I doing the right thing?” Let’s say that there was an envelope with the answer to that question inside. All you had to do was give up your free will to have it. Would you take it? Most of us would not! Rightly so!

You are here on this earth to live your life. That means you get to take control over what happens. You get to choose what time to get up, whether to eat, what to eat, and how to spend your day. All those choices create results. Some of those results will be pleasing, others will not. It’s all good. When something pleases you, enjoy it. When something displeases you, make adjustments and move on.

Basically what I am saying is that all you need to know is inside of you. Check inside. See how you feel within your soul. Not in your belly where your fear resides. Don’t check your head where logic resides. Don’t look in your heart where your feelings are. All these things can lead you astray. Check your soul. What does your soul or wise mind say?

Listen to that. Be in the moment. Commit, then see it through to the next moment. When you get there and something shifts, be in that moment. Keep doing that until you get through the day, the week, the year, the lifetime.

People spend a lot of time spinning their wheels pondering questions that either have no answers or the answers are inaccessible (like trying to talk to the dead or someone you can’t find). This is a form of avoidance of living. Another tactic would be to think like Erika Harris who said, “I’m less interested in why we’re here. I’m wholly devoted to while we’re here.”

If you stay curious and open, you will likely learn far more than if you look at life as something to study or figure out. Let it go. You really don’t need to know all you think you do.

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