Shame happens when we perceive we have done something wrong and someone else witnesses it. Instead of seeing the behavior is wrong, we believe that
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What Causes Toxic Shame?
Sometimes I get clients who are really nice people, they seem honest, and really want to feel better, but they just don’t budge. Almost always
Could You Be Carrying Toxic Shame?
I’ve never had any client come into my office saying, “I suffer from toxic shame.” In fact, a lot of people don’t know what it
Miracles Are Possible When You Change Your Expectations
What we expect has so much to do with how we think and feel. Expectations take us out of the Now. When that happens, we can’t enjoy or respond to what is here.
Five Reasons You’re Stuck (And What To Do About It)
Are you spinning your wheels? Can’t get any traction to move on? Here are five reasons why that can help you get going again. Did
How To Express Anger in Healthy Ways
Let’s face it. Everybody gets angry sometimes. It’s not a “bad” thing. It’s a natural thing that alerts us when we feel our boundaries are
Hope For Hurts That Never Heal
“I’ll always feel this pain” are words I hate to hear. They feel like the person is resigned to live with pain – like there
How to Tell If You’re Projecting Your Stuff Onto Someone Else
Projection is putting our thoughts, feelings, or fears on to someone else. It’s what we do when we are in Shadow. We do it because
What to Do When You’re Feeling Fragile
Everybody hits a wall sometimes. It’s that feeling you get when you need something or someone to hold on to. You feel that you’re out
7 Tips for Dealing With Pandemic Induced Depression
Sheltering in place for months is taking a toll on mental health. We’re not engaging in many of the things that create stability and happiness.