If you grew up in a chaotic environment, you may not know what safety feels like. How do you cultivate something when you don’t know
Category: coping
How to Heal Toxic Shame
Shame happens when we perceive we have done something wrong and someone else witnesses it. Instead of seeing the behavior is wrong, we believe that
What Causes Toxic Shame?
Sometimes I get clients who are really nice people, they seem honest, and really want to feel better, but they just don’t budge. Almost always
Miracles Are Possible When You Change Your Expectations
What we expect has so much to do with how we think and feel. Expectations take us out of the Now. When that happens, we can’t enjoy or respond to what is here.
What Does “Take Responsibility For What’s Yours” Look Like?
In my previous post, I said that one way to reduce relationship friction is to take responsibility for what’s yours. This is a part of
Creating a Truce for Stormy Relationships
If you are in a stormy relationship that you want to grow into a healthy one, it may be useful to call a truce. Here
Five Reasons You’re Stuck (And What To Do About It)
Are you spinning your wheels? Can’t get any traction to move on? Here are five reasons why that can help you get going again. Did
How To Express Anger in Healthy Ways
Let’s face it. Everybody gets angry sometimes. It’s not a “bad” thing. It’s a natural thing that alerts us when we feel our boundaries are
Hope For Hurts That Never Heal
“I’ll always feel this pain” are words I hate to hear. They feel like the person is resigned to live with pain – like there
How to Tell If You’re Projecting Your Stuff Onto Someone Else
Projection is putting our thoughts, feelings, or fears on to someone else. It’s what we do when we are in Shadow. We do it because