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Are You Vulnerable to an Affair?

Are you vulnerable to an affair? Any relationship can suffer from infidelity, but there are some factors that make cheating more likely. Let’s take a look at what they are. Marriage vs. Cohabitating Did you know that a study by Pepper Schwartz and Philip Blumstein showed that long term married people are less likely to […]

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Argue For Your Limitations and They Are Yours

Have you ever said, “I can’t because…” the economy is bad my boss doesn’t like me my parents were mentally ill I’m too (insert adjective such as short, tall, young, old, etc). my mom didn’t love me my dad was an alcoholic I’m not (insert adjective like good, smart, worthy, or clever) enough “Argue for […]

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What’s Your Mental Diet Like?

We hear a lot about how important our diet is. We are encouraged to eat clean, reduce sugar, and eat in moderation. Most of us know the benefits of watching our diet, but what about our mental diet? How much attention do you pay to what your mind consumes? What are you feeding your brain? […]

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Boiling Mad? Schedule an Anger Date

When it comes to anger, there seems to be two types of people who get all the attention- those who have no problems spewing anger everywhere and those who feel it’s best to never display anger. I have a suggestion for the second group – schedule an anger date.  What’s an Anger Date? An anger […]

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Stop Murdering Our Children

With school shooting being a feature of modern life, you might think that the title of this article refers to that. No, I am talking about parents who kill their children’s spirits. These little people don’t get to grow up to be healthy big people. If I had a dollar for every potential client who […]

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Trends in Mental Health 2018

Everything is always evolving. There are even trends in mental health. Here are some of the things I am seeing in my practice. Suicide is On The Rise It used to be that a therapist could go her whole career without having a suicide. If her clientele was low risk, she might not even have […]

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Practice Compassion

Compassion is a feeling of deep sympathy and sorrow for another who is stricken by misfortune, accompanied by a strong desire to alleviate the suffering. It’s always effective to practice compassion when we encounter someone who is suffering. It heals wounds and spreads love. In the space of all that, humanity thrives. When You Judge […]

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Life is Not A Performance

Have you heard the quote, “Life is not a dress rehearsal”? It’s a good quote. It helps people realize that this moment matters. However, life is not a performance either. You don’t have to go all out every time for everything to avoid limping through life. Let’s take a look at what I mean. Academics […]

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To the Rainbows in a Black and White World

Hey, you beautiful, fully sensory creature. I see you. I just wanted you to know that. It can be tough for you to move through the world in a mindful, present, aware state and be surrounded by people who can’t see you, can’t connect, and don’t understand you. You’re not broken. You just speak a […]

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Stop Leveraging Your Life

The current generation grew up with the idea that leveraging their life is the way to go. What is “leveraging your life?” Leveraging is a technique that multiplies gains (or losses). It’s often used with money or time. In other words, we trade money for time or we borrow money to make more money. In […]