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Three Things You Can’t Get Back

Life ebbs and flows. Things are always changing. In most cases, if you don’t do something today, the option will still be there tomorrow. When you make a mistake, you can usually go back and get a do over. So generally speaking, your decisions are not that critical. However, there are three things that you can’t […]

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How to Fail At Therapy

Want to know how to fail at therapy? Read on! Imagine that you are piloting a boat. You are far from shore and hopelessly lost. Your boating skills are mediocre. Nobody knows where you are. No one is expecting you. And you have no life vests. Your friend gives you all sorts of suggestions to get […]

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Embrace The Struggle

Probably every generation of parents desires for their kids to “have it better than we did.” They do things to reduce risk and create comfort. Even those kids who didn’t grow up with loving parents and comfortable situations had the benefit of sociological change that made things easier than it was for those who came […]

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How to Get a Win/Win Solution Every Time

If you want your relationships to thrive, you have to be able to deal with conflict. Getting to a win/win solution always makes all parties happy because everyone gets what he wants. So how do you do that? Let’s take a look. Be Willing to Talk If one person is not willing to talk, you […]

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If You Want More, Create Space

The universe is mostly made up of what we see as empty space. Atoms and cells are also mostly empty space. This is part of the universal design. Universal law says “As above, so below.” So, why do we humans go against the grain and do everything we can to fill up that space? If […]

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Be Impeccable With Your Word

Don Miguel Ruiz wrote The Four Agreements in 1997. This best selling book inspires people to change their lives with just four easy ideas. The first is be impeccable with your word. I love this. It embodies so many things: honesty, integrity, sticking to values, honoring others, healthy boundaries, and creating love. The first part […]

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How To Do Stuff

There are a lot of people who don’t know how to do stuff. I am talking about every day life skills that help your life run smoothly and easily. Maybe they weren’t taught. It could be that they don’t have enough experience with doing new things that they don’t have context to figure it out. […]

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Six Tips on How to Handle Valentine’s Day Pressure

We’re approaching another holiday – Valentine’s Day. This one can be loaded with lots of stress. If Valentine’s Day has typically been a day of disappointment for you, read on. Here are six tips for how to handle the Valentine’s Day pressure. Appreciate Where You Are The circle of life applies to all things. There are […]

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Give Up The Need to Know

Curiosity is a great thing. It leads to new inventions and breakthrough discoveries. But some things that are unknowable. Why did he leave me? How could I not know my friend was going to commit suicide? Does she love me? Is God real? What happens when we die? Why do I feel this way? Why […]

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Your Feelings Are Not a Reflection of Reality

Your feelings are not a reflection of reality. They are a reflection of your thoughts, lifestyle (diet, sleep, whether or not you exercise, etc.), and emotional habits. If an acorn falls on my head and I think, “The sky is going to fall,” I respond with fear. If an acorn falls on my head and […]