healthy break up

How to Have a Healthy Break Up

Relationships are risky. Sometimes they don’t work out. This can be true even if both parties are great people. Maybe there aren’t enough shared interests to keep them connected. Maybe they each want different things. Or perhaps they just make better friends. It happens. Not all relationships are forever. So, it’s good to know how […]

religious trauma syndrome

What is “Religious Trauma Syndrome?”

Most therapist promote spirituality as a coping mechanism. Life is holistic. We need to connect to Spirit in order to feel whole. It helps expand our experience of life. However, even the best things can be corrupted. Religious trauma syndrome is one example. So what it is? Defining Religious Trauma Syndrome You won’t find “religious […]

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One Lifestyle Hack That Always Works

When you don’t know what to do, there is one lifestyle hack that always works- wu wei. It’s a Daoist practice that means non-doing. It doesn’t mean do nothing. It means to go through life without effort. When things feel easy breezy, you’ve got it. Nature does not hurry yet everything is accomplished. ~Lao Tzu […]

defensiveness

Why Defensiveness is a Relationship Destroyer

If someone says something that we perceive as “You’re bad,” we generally respond in one of two ways: You’re even worse (attack). No, I’m not! (defense) Both of these are relationship destroyers. Most of us know that attacking leads to fighting and away from connection. In this article, I will discuss why defensiveness is a relationship […]

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Early Warning Signs of Abusive Relationships

It’s a lot easier to not get into an abusive relationship than to get out once it’s started. Since abusive relationships don’t usually start out bad, it’s good to know the early warning signs to avoid getting deeply entangled. Let’s take a look at some of the common signs. Love Bombing If the relationship starts […]

after the affair

What to Do After An Affair

So, there’s been an affair. You want to repair your relationship, and you want to know what to do after an affair to make things better. Read on! First, a definition. “Affair” means that there has been a relationship outside of the primary relationship without the knowledge and consent of the other partner. It can […]

I get to

“I Have to” vs. “I Get To”

If you want to make one simple change that can alter the way you move through life, change “I have to” to “I get to.” Stress is caused by trying, feeling put upon, hurrying, and a lack of choice. When you have to do things, you can go through life feeling like a beast of […]

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Why Do I Have to Meditate Every Day?

Have you ever thought, “Why do I have to meditate every day?” Does it feel like work sometimes? Self care can be hard to maintain if you look at is as a chore. Let’s see if we can turn it into something that you feel enthusiastic about doing instead. Maybe then it will become something […]

what's love got to do with it

What’s Love Got to Do With It?

Jane Austen was the queen of “What’s love got to do with it?” Perhaps that is why her stories still resonate a hundred years after they were written. Let’s take a look. There is no doubt that Mariane Dashwood and John Willoughby love each other. Love was not enough to make him stay with her. […]