Living a Spiritually Debt Free Life

As a facilitator of past life regression, I can tell you that the number one thing that comes up in any session is spiritual debt or unfinished business. When you leave this world in debt, you don’t get a “get out of debt free” card. You accumulate debt. So when you come back again, you […]

Gasp! What Will People Think?

Do you spend time worrying about what will people think? Does it immobilize you? If so, you’re probably giving too much of your power away. If you want to stop worrying about what people think, here is a suggestion that can work for most situations. Show them what to think through your behavior. We teach […]

We Teach People How To Treat Us

Whenever you’re having problems with other people, it’s time to ask yourself, “What am I putting out there?” While it’s true that you can’t control the thoughts, feelings, or behaviors of other people, you do have influence over how they treat you. Why? Because we teach people how to treat us. Yep, that’s right. To […]

Five Ways to Deal with the Meantime

What do you do when you’re in the meantime? What’s the meantime? It’s that space between becoming and being. It’s the difference between where we are and where we want to be. Here are some examples: working at a job you hate while waiting for something else being a student instead of a professional that […]

How Do You Escape?

How do you escape? Do you know? It may not be anything you spend a lot of time thinking about, but it’s a really important thing to know about yourself! Why? Because many people don’t know what they are doing when they are doing it. When your mode of escape is conscious, it can be […]

It’s Not About You Unless You Say It Is

When someone cuts in front of you when you’re driving, is that about you? If someone sees you walking towards them with an arm full of groceries and doesn’t hold the door open for you, do you get offended? If it’s sunny all week then rains on your day off, is the world against you? No […]

How Do You Stay Safe?

We all have ways of staying safe. They are our go to strategies for keeping life from spiraling out of control. Sometimes we make them ways of living. Sometimes we reach for them under stress. Some strategies are more adaptive than others because they help us and others around us. Some strategies are good for […]

The Magic of the Gratitude Letter

When I was in high school, matriculated students would routinely come to my choir class to visit with the teacher. It was easy to see that he was the kind of person who made an impact on people’s lives. He often sought out the kids who didn’t have good grades, might have problematic home lives, […]

You Are the Problem. You are the Solution.

Take a look at your life. What’s wrong? Whatever you answer, know that in truth, you are the problem and you are the solution. How you identify the problem is simply how the imbalance shows up in your life. This might sound like a “blame the victim” approach. It’s not. It’s actually empowering. When you […]

Don’t Go to the Pity Party

A pity party is an indulgent bout of feeling sorry for yourself that is often accompanied by blame, anger, and feelings of helplessness. If you are invited or are tempted to throw your own event, don’t go to the pity party! A pity party is not the same thing as feeling your feelings. Feeling your feeling […]