What Boundaries Are Not

Is it Mercury in retrograde? Holiday stress? The full super moon? I am not sure, and I don’t suppose it matters what is causing the boundaries to be pushed. But you know what? it’s a good thing. It’s practice for strengthening them and making them healthier. You can’t fix what you can’t see. I’ve already […]

Understanding Personal Boundaries

Imagine living in a high rise apartment building where most of the people’s flats have no doors or windows. Some have doors, but the locks are broken. Consequently, things get moved, taken, eaten, and used without permission. People can come in and watch your private business. You can see and hear what goes on in […]

Skills to Keep Your Holidays Jolly

Do holidays make you anxious? Do you feel pressure to please people? No worries. Here are some skills to keep your holidays jolly. Ask For What You Want If you don’t specifically ask for what you want, you’re not likely to get it. Even the best mind reader doesn’t anticipate correctly every time. What seems […]

Help! I Can’t Get or Keep a Relationship!

Do you have trouble forming close relationships? If so, this is almost always because you either have a wall around you or you’re trying to have a relationship with someone who has wall (or both). What’s a person with a wall look like? says he wants intimacy, but avoids intimacy and close relationships has few […]

Why People with Unhealthy Boundaries Are Scary

I’ve seen a lot of articles written about boundaries that focus on the person with poor boundaries. Boundary violations and weakness affect not only the person with the unhealthy boundaries. People with unhealthy boundaries are scary for those they come in contact with, too. So let’s take a look at how unhealthy boundaries impact other […]

Be Consistent

Would you prefer to go to a restaurant with the same menu every time or one that changes daily? When you are in need, are you more likely to call on a friend who is always supportive or one who is only there for you sometimes? Would you rather be evaluated for work performance based […]

What Are Healthy Boundaries?

Healthy people have healthy boundaries. What are boundaries? They are the physical and emotional barriers that establish the division between you and the outside world. What are healthy boundaries? Healthy boundaries are semi-permeable limits that allow you to have life giving contact with the world. You neither give too much nor receive too little. If […]