Nine Tips to Build Character

What is Character and Why Does it Matter? Character is the mental and moral traits that make up an individual. Character includes intellect, thoughts, ideas, motives, intentions, temperament, judgment, behavior, imagination, perception, emotions, loves, and hates. However, it’s much more than personality, likes, and dislikes. Character demonstrates the things that define us to ourselves and others. […]

Desiring Desirelessness

Do you desire desirelessness? Some do. Desire is the root of suffering. We want what we want. When we don’t have it, we feel pain and experience dis-ease. If things don’t go the way we want, we are disappointed and depressed. If we could just stop wanting, the pain would go away, right? But does […]

What Healthy Women Look Like

A while ago, I wrote a blog post about what a healthy man looks like. I guess it’s only fair to do the same for women. Why? Because many women are not really growing into their full femininity. We can be damaged as children and suffer from arrested development. Or we get sucked into our […]

Want to Help? Don’t Offer Advice Unless It’s Asked For.

Want to help? Don’t offer advice unless it’s asked for. Doesn’t that sound counter intuitive coming from a counselor? Well, not really. I know many people think that people go to counseling for advice. That’s not what we do at all. What we actually do is help people get clear on their issues and values […]

Vulnerability is Sexy

When we are kids, we learn that being vulnerable hurts. We say what we think and are criticized or corrected. We exhibit our joy and are told to tone it down. So, we learn that being vulnerable is a weakness. All things go in a circle if you ride the wave long enough, so we […]

What You Think You Know About Hypnosis Is Probably Wrong

I recently overheard some members of the general public speaking about hypnosis. I was floored. When you’re in a field for so long, it can be easy to imagine that other people know what you know. So, this article is about why what you think you know about hypnosis is probably wrong. Here are some […]

Tips for Handling Invalidating Comments

If you’re in an environment of disrespect, it can make it really hard for you to function. This is really stressful. There are some thing you can do to make it easier. Here are some tips for handling invalidating comments. Give responses that: reflect YOUR thoughts, feeling, and needs show respect – both self-respect and […]

Exploring the Masculine Archetypes

There is a disturbing amount of unhealthy information out there about what it means to be a man. I recently saw an article that essentially described American males as emotionless, lonely, tough, disposable robots. I took it as a wake up call to recognize the humanity inside and release some of the pressure put upon men. […]

Who Deserves Compassion?

Who deserves compassion? Can we draw a line separating those who are worthy from those who are not? Are pedophiles worthy of compassion? How about liars, cheaters, drunk drivers, murderers, drug addicts, or rapists? What about people who are lazy, mentally ill people, selfish, stingy, or rude? How do you decide what makes a person […]