Trends in Mental Health 2018

Everything is always evolving. There are even trends in mental health. Here are some of the things I am seeing in my practice. Suicide is On The Rise It used to be that a therapist could go her whole career without having a suicide. If her clientele was low risk, she might not even have […]

“You Saw Me!”

One day I was in conversation with someone who suddenly burst out crying and said, “You saw me!” In that moment it touched me how infrequently that happens. I was also struck by how important it is to be seen. How often do we give that to others? How often do we allow others to […]

Face It. Feel It.

Gone With the Wind is a fabulous movie. It’s a timeless look at humanity. One of the strongest scenes is when Scarlett is seen in the arms of her brother in law, Ashley. Her husband, Rhett Butler, won’t allow his disgraced wife to hide. He demands that she go to Melanie’s party and show her […]

Practice Compassion

Compassion is a feeling of deep sympathy and sorrow for another who is stricken by misfortune, accompanied by a strong desire to alleviate the suffering. It’s always effective to practice compassion when we encounter someone who is suffering. It heals wounds and spreads love. In the space of all that, humanity thrives. When You Judge […]

Life is Not A Performance

Have you heard the quote, “Life is not a dress rehearsal”? It’s a good quote. It helps people realize that this moment matters. However, life is not a performance either. You don’t have to go all out every time for everything to avoid limping through life. Let’s take a look at what I mean. Academics […]

To the Rainbows in a Black and White World

Hey, you beautiful, fully sensory creature. I see you. I just wanted you to know that. It can be tough for you to move through the world in a mindful, present, aware state and be surrounded by people who can’t see you, can’t connect, and don’t understand you. You’re not broken. You just speak a […]

Why Your Fairy Tale Romance May End in Divorce

Did you know that a fairy tale romance, or soul mate relationship, has a higher chance of ending in divorce? Does that sound crazy? Yes, the National Marriage Project found that people who feel they’ve married their soul mate are 150 percent more likely to divorce than those who do not feel this way.┬áIsn’t knowing […]

Stop Leveraging Your Life

The current generation grew up with the idea that leveraging their life is the way to go. What is “leveraging your life?” Leveraging is a technique that multiplies gains (or losses). It’s often used with money or time. In other words, we trade money for time or we borrow money to make more money. In […]

Understanding the Kinesthetic Learner

The theme of the month is the challenges of the kinesthetic learner. I want to share because there are a lot of misconceptions about it that can be painful. What is a Kinesthetic Learner? There are 4 different styles of learning: visual, auditory, kinesthetic, and auditory-digital. Visual learners experiences the world in pictures. They tend […]

How to Respond to “How Are You?”

Everybody gets asked “How are you?” many times a day, but how do you respond? I talk to lots of folks who hate that we give each other the obligatory, “I’m fine. How are you?” They feel it is meaningless pleasantry and yearn for something more. But what does that look like? Does that mean […]