Clear it Out

It’s officially fall. It’s time for things to die back and go to sleep so that we can rejuvenate and be reborn. This makes now a perfect time to clear stuff out. What stuff? Anything that no longer serves you. Here are some suggestions. Spam If you get emails from retailers, programs, vacation operators, etc. […]

Wounded Child or Wild Child?

We all have a wounded child inside. Sometimes this wounding happened though child abuse, neglect, addiction, or sexual abuse. Sometimes the wound is a lot less obvious. It could come from simply realizing that our parents are not perfect. Maybe our parents used us as their confidante and told us too much. For whatever reason, […]

Can I Get a Witness?

One thing we don’t do well as a culture is witness. Witnessing is being present with someone and allowing them to have their thoughts and feeling without feeling like you have to respond. Silence gives people space to hear their own thoughts. A thought in your head isn’t the same thing as a thought that […]

Exercising the Right Use of Power

Whenever life gives you a challenge, and this never stops, you have a choice how to view it. When you exercise the right use of power, you will always maintain your dignity and inner strength. If your goal is to maintain the relationship, the right use of power is also your best weapon. Feelings of […]

What Your Dreams Can Tell You

Are you listening to your dreams? Dreams can tell you all sorts of things! They can give you insight into your path, ideas to use to expand creativity, and warnings to save you grief or disease. They can also help you solve problems. Here are some famous examples. Mary Shelley had a vivid waking nightmare […]

Practicing Love Talk

One really great way to improve your mood, creativity, and connection is to start practicing love talk. Have you ever gotten lost in something so wonderful that you couldn’t wait to give voice to it to bring it out into the world? That’s love talk. Love talk requires that you see the world through loving […]

Nine Tips to Build Character

What is Character and Why Does it Matter? Character is the mental and moral traits that make up an individual. Character includes¬†intellect, thoughts, ideas, motives, intentions, temperament, judgment, behavior, imagination, perception, emotions, loves, and hates. However, it’s much more than personality, likes, and dislikes. Character demonstrates the things that define us to ourselves and others. […]

Desiring Desirelessness

Do you desire desirelessness? Some do. Desire is the root of suffering. We want what we want. When we don’t have it, we feel pain and experience dis-ease. If things don’t go the way we want, we are disappointed and depressed. If we could just stop wanting, the pain would go away, right? But does […]

What Healthy Women Look Like

A while ago, I wrote a blog post about what a healthy man looks like. I guess it’s only fair to do the same for women. Why? Because many women are not really growing into their full femininity. We can be damaged as children and suffer from arrested development. Or we get sucked into our […]

Want to Help? Don’t Offer Advice Unless It’s Asked For.

Want to help? Don’t offer advice unless it’s asked for. Doesn’t that sound counter intuitive coming from a counselor? Well, not really. I know many people think that people go to counseling for advice. That’s not what we do at all. What we actually do is help people get clear on their issues and values […]