Is this Sexual Activity Okay?

If a topic appears on my blog, it’s almost always because it is about something I’ve seen repeatedly, said repeatedly, or been asked about repeatedly. With sex becoming more and more casual, there is a lot more grey area about what is and what isn’t appropriate. I hope that this article clears some of that […]

What is Flow?

What is Flow? Flow is the rhythm of life. It is the energy supports how you work, plan, and live. Your life hangs on its framework. Flow moves in cyclical patterns moving from beginning, to growth, to maturity, to death and gestation. When you understand it, feel it, and work with it, life moves more […]

How to Identify Your Invisible Rules

Imagine if we had to talk out everything to make sense of things. We’d be exhausted by 9:00 a.m! Fortunately our invisible rules act as guideposts to help us get through life. When it works, it’s fantastic. When it doesn’t, it can be a disaster. However, since our rules are invisible, it can be tough to know […]

Why Did I Do That?

Everyone has times in their lives when they say, “Why did I do that?” and just can’t figure things out. When this is you, try applying a behavior chain analysis to shed some light on things. Not sure what that is? Read on! A behavior chain analysis is a method for looking at linked things […]

Sensitivity is Not Reactivity

Sensitivity is not reactivity. Sensitivity is the ability to perceive stimuli. Reactivity is about responsiveness to stimuli. The two are not the same, nor do they always go hand in hand. Let’s take a look at them separately to see what I mean. Sensitivity As with all things, there an be too much or too […]

Who Are You?

A lot of people spend a lot of time musing about what they want to do. They think that if they know their purpose, their life will have meaning. I propose that, “What is my purpose?” is the wrong question. We’re not human doings. We’re human beings. So perhaps the better question is, “Who am […]

Using Archetypes to Help Navigate Life’s Journey

When you’re on a journey (like life), it helps to know where you are and where you are going. Carl Jung’s archetypes is a great tool for this! Archetypes are unconscious energy that is present in all people. One energy tends to dominate; however, as we move through life, different energies move to the forefront. […]

Be the Hero of Your Own Story

In every life there are many calls to adventure. When you accept, you may have fun. You may get beat down a bit, but you always grow. If you do enough of these, you become the hero of your own story. If you refuse enough of these, they stop coming. You may end up living […]

How to Live a Life of Courage

“Courage is going from failure to failure without losing enthusiasm.” ~Winston Churchill Winston Churchill was a brilliant speaker. This is one of my favorite quotes of his because for me, it captures the essence of what it means to have courage. Courage isn’t the ability to live without fear. It’s not even solely the willingness […]

Conquering the Two Faces of Anxiety

Anxiety has two faces. If you understand what they both are, you have a shot at overcoming them. So let’s start by defining the first face. This type of anxiety is a feeling of foreboding that shows up for no reason. You don’t know when it will start or when it will go away. This type […]