Gasp! What Will People Think?

Do you spend time worrying about what will people think? Does it immobilize you? If so, you’re probably giving too much of your power away.

If you want to stop worrying about what people think, here is a suggestion that can work for most situations. Show them what to think through your behavior.

We teach people how to treat us, and this is one of the ways that we do that. If you act confident and secure in your decisions, other people will usually either agree with you or will at least give you the benefit of the doubt.

So let’s say that you did something embarrassing or that you’d rather people not know about. It happens, right? So, what do you do? If you own up to it and act nonchalant about it, people will either not make a big deal out of it or they will gossip until they find something juicier to talk about. Either way, there is no lasting damage to you. When the type of people who want to see ugliness don’t get a rise out of you, they will go where they can get the response they want.

If you worry about your mistakes or try to hide them, you give energy to the situation. This keeps it alive. The fact that you want it to stay hidden shows people that it’s something shameful. They will probably respond to this by telling others, judging you, and having negative feelings about it.

Life is what you think it is. If YOU think your behavior is shameful or that something about your is wrong or bad, your life will reflect that. There are many possibilities happening at all times, but your mind will reflect the one that you choose. So choose things that are life giving and healthy. Choose affirming beliefs. See compassion. Live in forgiveness and love. Choose acceptance. If you see that, others will too.

 

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