The best thing about a being a therapist is that I get to see a lot people at a really vulnerable time. This means they are usually super honest and authentic. There are no masks. Sometimes they are wounded and down. Sometimes they are incredibly happy or inspired. So, I guess what I am saying is that I get to see people as their most lovely selves. And do you know one of the conclusions I have come to? Everybody’s goofy.
Yep, everybody’s goofy, and they think they are one of a few goofy people out there. I suspect that when we are kids, we are allowed to be silly for a while. Then as we get older, we’re told to behave, grow up, and act our age. We’re ordered to conform. So we learn that being goofy isn’t appropriate. And we start to hide it.
But it doesn’t go away. It’s lurking inside waiting for someone we feel safe enough with to let it out. Someone who is goofy in the same way that we are so that they can appreciate our quirks. When we find that person, we feel like we’ve made a friend for life.
When it comes down to it, being goofy is really just about feeling brave enough to be yourself. If you like red striped shoes, you will wear red striped shoes. If your music taste runs to the unusual, you indulge yourself instead of going with the mainstream. When you feel like singing, you let yourself sing – even if other people can hear you.
Trust me when I tell you that everyone is quirky. There are no “normal” people. We’re mostly people who follow the crowd because that’s what we think we’re supposed to do. Left to ourselves, we laugh a lot more, a lot louder, and about really silly stuff than we’d ever let on to people who are not in our inner circle.
So, why am I saying this? To give you permission to let your freak flag fly. Be yourself. It’s okay. You look a whole lot more beautiful as you than someone from a magazine that you’re trying to be. You will feel a lot more comfortable in your skin if you let people see the real you, too.
Your thoughts are not as weird as you think they are. The things you like aren’t so strange. Your beliefs are not as bizarre as you might think. Give other people a chance to see you. Invite others to show themselves to you. People are really interesting. And who knows? You might meet someone who goofy in the same way that you are.