Embrace The Struggle

Probably every generation of parents desires for their kids to “have it better than we did.” They do things to reduce risk and create comfort. Even those kids who didn’t grow up with loving parents and comfortable situations had the benefit of sociological change that made things easier than it was for those who came […]

How to Get a Win/Win Solution Every Time

If you want your relationships to thrive, you have to be able to deal with conflict. Getting to a win/win solution always makes all parties happy because everyone gets what he wants. So how do you do that? Let’s take a look. Be Willing to Talk If one person is not willing to talk, you […]

If You Want More, Create Space

The universe is mostly made up of what we see as empty space. Atoms and cells are also mostly empty space. This is part of the universal design. Universal law says “As above, so below.” So, why do we humans go against the grain and do everything we can to fill up that space? If […]

Be Impeccable With Your Word

Don Miguel Ruiz wrote The Four Agreements in 1997. This best selling book inspires people to change their lives with just four easy ideas. The first is be impeccable with your word. I love this. It embodies so many things: honesty, integrity, sticking to values, honoring others, healthy boundaries, and creating love. The first part […]

How To Do Stuff

There are a lot of people who don’t know how to do stuff. I am talking about every day life skills that help your life run smoothly and easily. Maybe they weren’t taught. It could be that they don’t have enough experience with doing new things that they don’t have context to figure it out. […]

Six Tips on How to Handle Valentine’s Day Pressure

We’re approaching another holiday – Valentine’s Day. This one can be loaded with lots of stress. If Valentine’s Day has typically been a day of disappointment for you, read on. Here are six tips for how to handle the Valentine’s Day┬ápressure. Appreciate Where You Are The circle of life applies to all things. There are […]

Give Up The Need to Know

Curiosity is a great thing. It leads to new inventions and breakthrough discoveries. But some things that are unknowable. Why did he leave me? How could I not know my friend was going to commit suicide? Does she love me? Is God real? What happens when we die? Why do I feel this way? Why […]

Your Feelings Are Not a Reflection of Reality

Your feelings are not a reflection of reality. They are a reflection of your thoughts, lifestyle (diet, sleep, whether or not you exercise, etc.), and emotional habits. If an acorn falls on my head and I think, “The sky is going to fall,” I respond with fear. If an acorn falls on my head and […]

Be Consistent

Would you prefer to go to a restaurant with the same menu every time or one that changes daily? When you are in need, are you more likely to call on a friend who is always supportive or one who is only there for you sometimes? Would you rather be evaluated for work performance based […]

A New Way to Look at Starting Over

The first step to starting over is realizing that it’s time to start over. What do I mean? Well, have you ever been in a position where you’re spinning your wheels, not getting any traction, and just keep doing what is not working? That might be an indication that it’s time to start over. Some […]