How to Ask Fantastic Questions

If you want to be a great communicator, you have to ask fantastic questions. Great teachers, coaches, therapists, and parents are great because they ask great questions. If you want to grow quickly or have fulfilling relationships, you have to ask fantastic questions. This works in reverse as well. If you are not getting the […]

Be Willing to Be Wrong

We live in a culture that is obsessed with winning. Being number one is a high pressure game. Who remembers who got the silver medal? It’s either win or die! But what if you were willing to be second? What would happen if you were willing to be wrong? Actually a whole lot of good […]

Why You’re Failing at the Law of Attraction

Most of us have heard about the Law of Attraction which is the universal law that says our thoughts create our reality. So, we get clear on what we want, give gratitude for it, and act as if it’s already here. And we manifest some things, but not others. So why are you failing at […]

Be Flexible

Being fixated on an outcome is often applauded in our culture. We call it tenacity, being strong, being focused or maybe driven. When things don’t go according to plan, we can blame ourselves. We may say that we weren’t clear enough in our intention, didn’t work hard enough, or weren’t in alignment with our desire. […]

Do’s and Don’ts for Handling Tears

One of the first things we do in life is cry. As babies, we do it a lot. We’re all really good at it, then we do it less and less. Part of the reason is because we have less to cry about. We can walk without falling. We can get our own food. But there is […]

Safeguarding Your Privacy

I am a privacy freak. I think everyone has the right to determine who knows what about them. You should have the power to control what, when, if, and how information about you is shared. When you come into my office, that’s what you get. I have, and have had, a lot of clients who […]

If You’re Stuck, Try What’s Behind Door Number Three

When we are stuck, we can almost always see two options. The first is the “obvious” one that involves change. The second is doing what we’ve always done. For some reason change isn’t appealing. Usually it involves a compromise with some gains and some losses, and the losses are more than we really want to […]

Arousal, Orgasm, and Rape

Psst! I have a confession to make that I think everyone needs to hear. I am really embarrassed to admit that I worked as a domestic violence advocate and rape crisis counselor for a while without knowing that a rape survivor could experience arousal and orgasm. Yep! That was shamefully left out of my training. […]

Why People with Unhealthy Boundaries Are Scary

I’ve seen a lot of articles written about boundaries that focus on the person with poor boundaries. Boundary violations and weakness affect not only the person with the unhealthy boundaries. People with unhealthy boundaries are scary for those they come in contact with, too. So let’s take a look at how unhealthy boundaries impact other […]

How to Stop Letting Others Wreck Your Day

Do other people wreck your day? Do you feel like if other people just got their stuff together, you would be fine? Is your day fine until you get around other people? If this sounds like you, this article is for you. Here is how to stop letting others wreck your day. It’s Not About You […]