Be Choosy

If you live in the developed world, you’re unimaginably lucky. You can probably get something to eat at any hour of the day. You can eat Mexican food for lunch and Ethiopian for dinner. If you want neon markers, nine inch nails, or an antique lamp, you can probably have it at your doorstep the […]

How to Meet Your Emotional Needs

Just about everything our soul needs can fit into these categories: safety, connection, novelty, significance, growth, and contribution. When our top two emotional needs are met, we tend to be pretty happy. When all of our needs are met, we are living our passion. Sounds great, right? But do you ever wonder how to meet […]

Four Stages of Learning

Noel Burch identified the four stages of learning in the 1970s. Knowing these stages can really help you make accurate assessments of your own level of skill. They can also help you see areas that need improvement. Before I get into that, let’s look at the stages of learning. Unconscious Incompetence  – this is the “ignorance […]

Are You Addicted to Drama?

Addicted to drama? Who would want to be addicted to drama? Doesn’t everyone hate drama? You might be surprised. Drama is exciting. It creates adrenaline so that you have energy to get through the day. Some feel it gives them a sense of purpose or a crusade to go on. Drama makes people the center of […]

We Teach People How To Treat Us

Whenever you’re having problems with other people, it’s time to ask yourself, “What am I putting out there?” While it’s true that you can’t control the thoughts, feelings, or behaviors of other people, you do have influence over how they treat you. Why? Because we teach people how to treat us. Yep, that’s right. To […]

Mind Over Matter

On Oct 2, 1996, Lance Armstrong was diagnosed with stage 3 testicular cancer. Doctors also found brain lesions and cancer in his lungs and abdomen. The cyclist was ranked seventh in the world. He had a promising career ahead of him. He was twenty-five years old and looking at a death sentence. But as most people […]

Five Ways to Deal with the Meantime

What do you do when you’re in the meantime? What’s the meantime? It’s that space between becoming and being. It’s the difference between where we are and where we want to be. Here are some examples: working at a job you hate while waiting for something else being a student instead of a professional that […]

Stop Waiting for Someday to Live Your Life

Have you ever said something like: I’ll slow down after I get my degree. I’ll be happy when I get married. I will do something nice for myself when my kids are grown. When I have enough money in my retirement account, I will do what I want to do. One day I am going […]

How Do You Escape?

How do you escape? Do you know? It may not be anything you spend a lot of time thinking about, but it’s a really important thing to know about yourself! Why? Because many people don’t know what they are doing when they are doing it. When your mode of escape is conscious, it can be […]

Four Steps to Understanding Your Dreams

If I said there were four steps to understanding your dreams, would you learn them? Here they are. It’s easy. It is fun. Here they go! Write it Down! Something miraculous happens when thoughts flow out your head, through your pen, and onto a piece of paper. The thoughts become more real, more solid, and […]