Desiring Desirelessness

Do you desire desirelessness? Some do. Desire is the root of suffering. We want what we want. When we don’t have it, we feel pain and experience dis-ease. If things don’t go the way we want, we are disappointed and depressed. If we could just stop wanting, the pain would go away, right? But does […]

What Healthy Women Look Like

A while ago, I wrote a blog post about what a healthy man looks like. I guess it’s only fair to do the same for women. Why? Because many women are not really growing into their full femininity. We can be damaged as children and suffer from arrested development. Or we get sucked into our […]

Want to Help? Don’t Offer Advice Unless It’s Asked For.

Want to help? Don’t offer advice unless it’s asked for. Doesn’t that sound counter intuitive coming from a counselor? Well, not really. I know many people think that people go to counseling for advice. That’s not what we do at all. What we actually do is help people get clear on their issues and values […]

Vulnerability is Sexy

When we are kids, we learn that being vulnerable hurts. We say what we think and are criticized or corrected. We exhibit our joy and are told to tone it down. So, we learn that being vulnerable is a weakness. All things go in a circle if you ride the wave long enough, so we […]

Exploring the Masculine Archetypes

There is a disturbing amount of unhealthy information out there about what it means to be a man. I recently saw an article that essentially described American males as emotionless, lonely, tough, disposable robots. I took it as a wake up call to recognize the humanity inside and release some of the pressure put upon men. […]

Living in Circles, Lines, and Spirals

One could say there are three ways to live – in circles, lines, and spirals. The Circle The circle is generally embraced by people who need a high degree of security. The circle represents their comfort zone. They like to keep a high degree of control so not a lot of new things get in. […]

Your Vibe Attracts Your Tribe

If you are looking around and seeing things in your life that you just don’t like, it’s time to take responsibility. Your vibe attracts your tribe. This means that things that resonate at the same frequency are found together. When two similar things are in proximity, the vibration of the weaker follows the vibration of the […]

Is “Resting Bitch Face” a Real Thing?

Do you have resting bitch face (RBF)? Don’t know what that is? Here are some symptoms:  people frequently ask you to smile more people think you’re angry or sad even when you’re not your friends tell you that when they first saw you, they thought you were a bitch pictures of your face never look the […]

Everybody’s Goofy

The best thing about a being a therapist is that I get to see a lot people at a really vulnerable time. This means they are usually super honest and authentic. There are no masks. Sometimes they are wounded and down. Sometimes they are incredibly happy or inspired. So, I guess what I am saying […]

Ten Pick Me Ups for When You Don’t Have Time to Be Cranky

All emotions are normal. We all feel angry, happy, sad, worried, frustrated, cranky, and everything in between. But sometimes we don’t have the luxury of feeling what we are feeling. We just have to snap out of it so that we can focus and be effective. Here are ten pick me ups for when you […]