Three Words to Create Intimacy

Loneliness has always existed, but the technological age has made it epidemic. We don’t sit down to dinner as a family anymore. We don’t sit on the front stoop and talk to our neighbors. We don’t small talk with passersby. We text. We email. We even text when we’re sitting in the same room with […]

The Real Scoop on Anxiety and Depression

This past week I saw an article by Arjun Walia that I thought over simplified, and actually got wrong, the relationship between anxiety and depression. Coincidentally, also this past week I was asked about the same ideas that the article presented. When a “theme of the week” pops up, I notice that. So here is […]

The Truth About Personal Growth

The thing about embarking on a journey of personal growth is that it’s not all roses and ice cream. At the outset it sounds great. You’ve got all these wonderful plans and big dreams. In reality, you will be called upon to let go of things that have become comfortable in order to allow space […]

Four Times to Disobey the Reciprocity Rule

The Reciprocity Rule The Reciprocity Rule is a common societal norm that supposes that when you receive something, you return something of equal value. This can be material or emotional. This generally works to everyone’s advantage. When you give me good value, I return to your business and am a happy customer. When you give […]

Are You Being Haunted By Yourself?

The Christmas Carol is the fictional story of miserly old Ebenezer Scrooge. He was haunted by the ghosts of his Christmas past, present, and future. They reminded him of who he was and where his path was leading to give him a second chance at making other choices. We don’t tend to associate Christmas with […]

Don’t Worry. Be Happy.

Remember that song “Don’t Worry. Be Happy”? I used to really hate it. I thought it was the worst song in the world. It was silly, simple, and not very creative. Still, I couldn’t help but notice that it was just catchy enough to get me whistling, singing, and feeling better every time I heard […]

Lonely? Get Connected!

Loneliness is a state of mind that occurs when a person feels emotionally disconnected. Contributing factors are physical isolation (like-minded people aren’t nearby), low self-esteem and shyness (which keeps you from reaching out and accepting overtures from others), technology (such as texting and email which decreases face to face contact), feelings of uniqueness (which contribute […]

PMS is a Mental Disorder?

The DSM-5* is now stating that PMS is a mental disorder. I guess that means that as of May 2013, half the population has been classified as disabled by virtue of their gender. Hm… As a woman and a mental health professional, I have a problem with seeing natural parts of life as pathological. Aging is […]

Start Your New Year With a Day of Being

What is your New Year’s day tradition? Do you sleep half of it away? Clean the house? Watch football? How about shaking things up? Start a new tradition with a day of being. What is a day of being? It’s a day to feel your feelings, hear your thoughts, be present and enjoy reality just […]

Is It Passion or Obsession?

We all long to feel passion We are promised by the sages that if we follow our passion, we will accomplish great things, fulfill dreams, and find happiness. But are passion and obsession the same thing? On the outside, passion can look very much like obsession, but there are important distinctions. Passion is a life […]