A Holistic View of the “Highly Sensitive Person”

There is this new mental health diagnosis (it’s not officially recognized by the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders) going around called the Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). I’d like to present a holistic view of the “Highly Sensitive Person” here because I am hearing things about this spread by “experts” that are simply not […]

How to Get the Most Out of Therapy

Here are some quick tips on how to get most out of therapy. Shop Around Finding someone with the right fit is very important. Maybe you are more comfortable with someone of a specific gender, age range, or who has a specific skill set. Or maybe you just need to talk to the person first to […]

For Those Who Don’t Cook…

Those who don’t cook, I ask you to consider the following. Why do you think that courtship often includes an offer to feed the object of your affection? Why do we feed people after a wedding or funeral and during holidays? Why do the people of some cultures offer food to the dead? Food is […]

Don’t Be a Yes, But-ter…

Are you a yes, but -ter? What is a yes, but?  Yes, but-ting is when you agree with what is being said, then shoot it down. Here are some examples: I know I need to exercise. I just don’t have time. Of course upgrading my job skills would be great, but I don’t have the […]

Embrace Your Duality

The Law of Duality (or Law of Polarity) tells us that all things have what appears to be an opposite. However, the poles are simply extremes of the same thing. For example, we only know light because there is darkness. We know day because there is night. There is wealth and poverty. Using temperature as […]

Change Your Language, Change Your Life

Think about this German word – backpfeifengesicht. It doesn’t exist in English, but it means “a face badly in need of a fist.” How about this word, mamihlapinatapai, from the Yaghan language of Tierra del Fuego. It also isn’t an American concept. This one describes that special look shared between two people, when both are wishing that the other […]

Effective Problem Solving

One of the reasons why people aren’t enjoying their human experience is that they haven’t learned to use the right skill at the right time for the right problem. All the skills in the world don’t mean a thing if they aren’t skillfully applied. Would you use a hammer to chop a tree down? Would […]

Things I Learned From Pilgrimage

If a journey of a thousand miles begins with one step, how does a journey into the depths of your soul begin? Often with pilgrimage. Pilgrimage offers you opportunities that cannot be measured in miles. Perhaps it can’t be quantified at all. Still men have been doing it for millenia. The appeal is something that never loses […]

How to Stop Failing in Relationships

Do you want to know how to stop failing in relationships? Read on! There are some really easy tips that anyone can achieve. Once you make a few small changes, you can be a relationship “winner.” Change the Definition of Failure Often when people define themselves as a “relationship failure,” they mean that they engage […]

When You Can’t “Just Get Over It”

Resilience. We all have it to some degree. Sometimes it’s easy to bounce back. We’ve all seen it. We’ve probably all experienced it. This can make some people believe that not bouncing back is simply a matter of will. It is not. So, how do you tell the difference when you are just being willful […]