How to Heal From Unrequited Love

Heartache is hard. No doubt about it. When the one you love doesn’t seem to love you back, that can make it so much worse. Still, life has to go on, right? Here are some suggestions for how to heal from unrequited love. Give yourself time. It’s easy for friends and family to encourage you […]

Three Words to Create Intimacy

Loneliness has always existed, but the technological age has made it epidemic. We don’t sit down to dinner as a family anymore. We don’t sit on the front stoop and talk to our neighbors. We don’t small talk with passersby. We text. We email. We even text when we’re sitting in the same room with […]

The Life Cycle of An Affair

Affairs don’t just happen. They have a predictable life cycle. It’s fairly consistent from one couple to the next. If you can understand it, you may be able to see it coming and prevent it. Or, if you are already in it, you may be able to see your way out. Curious about the life […]

Four Times to Disobey the Reciprocity Rule

The Reciprocity Rule The Reciprocity Rule is a common societal norm that supposes that when you receive something, you return something of equal value. This can be material or emotional. This generally works to everyone’s advantage. When you give me good value, I return to your business and am a happy customer. When you give […]

Lonely? Get Connected!

Loneliness is a state of mind that occurs when a person feels emotionally disconnected. Contributing factors are physical isolation (like-minded people aren’t nearby), low self-esteem and shyness (which keeps you from reaching out and accepting overtures from others), technology (such as texting and email which decreases face to face contact), feelings of uniqueness (which contribute […]

Is It Passion or Obsession?

We all long to feel passion We are promised by the sages that if we follow our passion, we will accomplish great things, fulfill dreams, and find happiness. But are passion and obsession the same thing? On the outside, passion can look very much like obsession, but there are important distinctions. Passion is a life […]

October is Domestic Violence Month

When I meet new clients, I always ask about whether or not they have been subjected to domestic violence. Sometimes they say no, but later reveal that in their families, past relationships, or current relationships there is yelling, pushing, or controlling behaviors. I am surprised at how many people still don’t understand that THIS IS […]