Seven Soul Mate Myths to Discard

One of the most damaging concepts to love is the idea of soul mates. The popular idea is that there is one person out there who is made just for you who will make your life complete. If you are wondering if you are going to meet your soul mate, let me put your mind […]

The 411 on Emotional Affairs

Humans are social creatures. We need other people for companionship, validation, sex, growth, and even survival. It’s just a way that we are programmed to be. Our romantic partner often fills all those roles. When we get too busy, are feeling emotionally distant, or just haven’t invested in keeping the connection with our romantic partner, […]

When in Doubt, Love It Out

Everyone has moments (days, years?) when they just don’t know what to do. When in doubt, love it out. Love is never wrong. The effect can sometimes be instantaneous, and what you send out comes back to you. If someone has done you wrong, love it out. It doesn’t matter that they were wrong. It doesn’t […]

How to Heal From Unrequited Love

Heartache is hard. No doubt about it. When the one you love doesn’t seem to love you back, that can make it so much worse. Still, life has to go on, right? Here are some suggestions for how to heal from unrequited love. Give yourself time. It’s easy for friends and family to encourage you […]

Three Words to Create Intimacy

Loneliness has always existed, but the technological age has made it epidemic. We don’t sit down to dinner as a family anymore. We don’t sit on the front stoop and talk to our neighbors. We don’t small talk with passersby. We text. We email. We even text when we’re sitting in the same room with […]

The Life Cycle of An Affair

Affairs don’t just happen. They have a predictable life cycle. It’s fairly consistent from one couple to the next. If you can understand it, you may be able to see it coming and prevent it. Or, if you are already in it, you may be able to see your way out. Curious about the life […]

Four Times to Disobey the Reciprocity Rule

The Reciprocity Rule The Reciprocity Rule is a common societal norm that supposes that when you receive something, you return something of equal value. This can be material or emotional. This generally works to everyone’s advantage. When you give me good value, I return to your business and am a happy customer. When you give […]

Lonely? Get Connected!

Loneliness is a state of mind that occurs when a person feels emotionally disconnected. Contributing factors are physical isolation (like-minded people aren’t nearby), low self-esteem and shyness (which keeps you from reaching out and accepting overtures from others), technology (such as texting and email which decreases face to face contact), feelings of uniqueness (which contribute […]

Is It Passion or Obsession?

We all long to feel passion We are promised by the sages that if we follow our passion, we will accomplish great things, fulfill dreams, and find happiness. But are passion and obsession the same thing? On the outside, passion can look very much like obsession, but there are important distinctions. Passion is a life […]