Be Consistent

Would you prefer to go to a restaurant with the same menu every time or one that changes daily? When you are in need, are you more likely to call on a friend who is always supportive or one who is only there for you sometimes? Would you rather be evaluated for work performance based […]

Working Through Relationship Stages

All romantic relationships go through predictable cycles. If you understand what they are, you can more easily let go of the ones that aren’t in your best interest. You can work through those that you want to hold on to. So, let’s take a look at these relationship stages. Question Mark The question is, “What […]

Loving People Who Are Hard to Love

If you read a lot of my blog posts, you see a lot of “Let it go,” “You gotta have healthy boundaries,” and “You’re responsible for what shows up in your life” types of posts. It may give the impression that if something or someone isn’t working for you, it’s time to cut it loose. Before […]

You Can’t Divorce Your Family

The founding of America led to the change of some pretty cool ideas. For the first time, a nation embraced the idea that a person could be valued for their achievements rather than his family name. A person could worship in the way that his heart believed rather than in the way that the state prescribed. […]

We Teach People How To Treat Us

Whenever you’re having problems with other people, it’s time to ask yourself, “What am I putting out there?” While it’s true that you can’t control the thoughts, feelings, or behaviors of other people, you do have influence over how they treat you. Why? Because we teach people how to treat us. Yep, that’s right. To […]

What Does “I Don’t Like You, but I Love You” Mean?

What does it mean when someone says, “I don’t like you, but I love you?” It might seem like love can’t really happen without liking someone, but it does. How? Relationships can be complicated. You’ve got two moving parts (people) who aren’t necessarily moving at the same speed or in the same direction all the […]

Just Say No

You know what? Most people don’t like hearing no, but “no” is a great gift. Think about it. There are a lot of people who can’t say no. They do things they don’t want to do. Some agree with things that they don’t sincerely support. They can feel burned out and taken advantage of because they […]

Dating While Introverted

Meeting new people can be really anxiety provoking. Add in the hope of making a love match and the stress level can go through the roof. If you’re introverted, this can feel impossible. Hang on. Here are some tips for dating while introverted. Don’t Date Strangers Small talk and getting-to-know-you chatter can be an energy […]

“But He Never Hit Me”

“…but he never hit me” Those are the words that many *women say when confronted with the idea that they are in an abusive relationship. Abuse doesn’t have to be physical. In fact, a lot of physical abuse is dismissed because it doesn’t result in blood or broken bones. Touching in anger of any sort […]

Two Ways to Love

There are two ways to love: conditionally and unconditionally. Conditional love is not really love. Love doesn’t hurt. It doesn’t demand. It’s peaceful. It sustains. When people say love hurts, they aren’t talking about love. They are talking about something else – quite possibly conditional love. We know conditional love because the good, positive, affirming […]