What Boundaries Are Not

Is it Mercury in retrograde? Holiday stress? The full super moon? I am not sure, and I don’t suppose it matters what is causing the boundaries to be pushed. But you know what? it’s a good thing. It’s practice for strengthening them and making them healthier. You can’t fix what you can’t see. I’ve already […]

Understanding Personal Boundaries

Imagine living in a high rise apartment building where most of the people’s flats have no doors or windows. Some have doors, but the locks are broken. Consequently, things get moved, taken, eaten, and used without permission. People can come in and watch your private business. You can see and hear what goes on in […]

Is it You or Is It Me?

Do you ever scratch your head in confusion and say, “Is it you or is it me?” Of course! We all do. But how do you figure out the answer? Here are some steps that can help. Get Mindful If you want to see a situation clearly, you have to remove the things that make […]

Why Everyone Needs Sacred Space

Creating sacred space is so important for healthy individuals, families, and societies. So, what is sacred space? It’s an energetic cocoon of safety where you know that whatever you say, feel, or do will be accepted nonjudgmentally. It’s a place to feel like a equal and stand in your power. This is something we don’t […]

Healthy Parenting

The role of a parent is to rear healthy, self-sufficient children to adulthood. Somehow that role got distorted so that many think that as parents they have to be liked, keep their kids from feeling discomfort, give their kids lots of opportunities, and get their kids in the best schools. This can actually interfere with […]

Exercising the Right Use of Power

Whenever life gives you a challenge, and this never stops, you have a choice how to view it. When you exercise the right use of power, you will always maintain your dignity and inner strength. If your goal is to maintain the relationship, the right use of power is also your best weapon. Feelings of […]

Tips for Handling Invalidating Comments

If you’re in an environment of disrespect, it can make it really hard for you to function. This is really stressful. There are some thing you can do to make it easier. Here are some tips for handling invalidating comments. Give responses that: reflect YOUR thoughts, feeling, and needs show respect – both self-respect and […]

Who Deserves Compassion?

Who deserves compassion? Can we draw a line separating those who are worthy from those who are not? Are pedophiles worthy of compassion? How about liars, cheaters, drunk drivers, murderers, drug addicts, or rapists? What about people who are lazy, mentally ill people, selfish, stingy, or rude? How do you decide what makes a person […]

Two People Can’t Be in Crisis At the Same Time

Two people can’t be in crisis at the same time because crisis is about survival. When you are struggling for survival, you are worried about your own needs. You can’t be there for someone else no matter how much you really want to be. You won’t hear them when their crying.You won’t see them when […]

Is this Sexual Activity Okay?

If a topic appears on my blog, it’s almost always because it is about something I’ve seen repeatedly, said repeatedly, or been asked about repeatedly. With sex becoming more and more casual, there is a lot more grey area about what is and what isn’t appropriate. I hope that this article clears some of that […]