Is this Sexual Activity Okay?

If a topic appears on my blog, it’s almost always because it is about something I’ve seen repeatedly, said repeatedly, or been asked about repeatedly. With sex becoming more and more casual, there is a lot more grey area about what is and what isn’t appropriate. I hope that this article clears some of that […]

The Six Facets of Connection

There are many ways to feel a connection with someone. We live in a culture where we can think that feeling a spark means that romantic feelings or sex is the natural next step. Attraction doesn’t have to be sexual. Before you go down that road, you might want to explore the six facets of […]

Why Won’t You Talk to Me?

Do you ever want to shake someone and say, “Why won’t you talk to me?” Do you have to repeat yourself? Have you ever wished that your partner, family member, or friend would just pay more attention? This might be one of those times when it’s appropriate to say, “It’s not you. It’s me.” Hear […]

Help! I Can’t Get or Keep a Relationship!

Do you have trouble forming close relationships? If so, this is almost always because you either have a wall around you or you’re trying to have a relationship with someone who has wall (or both). What’s a person with a wall look like? says he wants intimacy, but avoids intimacy and close relationships has few […]

Why People with Unhealthy Boundaries Are Scary

I’ve seen a lot of articles written about boundaries that focus on the person with poor boundaries. Boundary violations and weakness affect not only the person with the unhealthy boundaries. People with unhealthy boundaries are scary for those they come in contact with, too. So let’s take a look at how unhealthy boundaries impact other […]

How to Stop Letting Others Wreck Your Day

Do other people wreck your day? Do you feel like if other people just got their stuff together, you would be fine? Is your day fine until you get around other people? If this sounds like you, this article is for you. Here is how to stop letting others wreck your day. It’s Not About You […]

Defeating Loneliness: How to Create Connection With Others

We often hear that a crowd is the loneliest place. There are a lot of lonely people out there who have other people in their lives. They just don’t feel connected to them. This is really an easy fix. Anyone can learn to create connection with others. Here are the steps to make it happen. […]

No Pedestals

A great rule of thumb for relationships of all kinds is “no pedestals.” Venus is in retrograde and many relationships are undergoing transformation. Some are coming together. Some are coming apart. Others are reuniting. If yours is undergoing reconstruction and you have a pedestal in place, why not smash it now? The pedestal is often […]

Are You a Good Lover?

Are you a good lover? I am talking Lover, like the Archetype, not asking about your physical prowess! What’s an archetypal Lover? Well, we all have our personal unconscious that is made up of our personal experiences. Our behavior is governed by the meaning we make from these experiences. We are also influenced by the collective […]

Breaking the Master, Servant, Hero Cycle

There are people who cast other people in one of three roles: master, servant, or hero. The master is the oppressor. He is  is essentially the bad guy who wants to tell you how to live. He dominates and takes from you so that he can have more or better things. The master is unsympathetic […]