Tips for Handling Invalidating Comments

If you’re in an environment of disrespect, it can make it really hard for you to function. This is really stressful. There are some thing you can do to make it easier. Here are some tips for handling invalidating comments. Give responses that: reflect YOUR thoughts, feeling, and needs show respect – both self-respect and […]

Who Deserves Compassion?

Who deserves compassion? Can we draw a line separating those who are worthy from those who are not? Are pedophiles worthy of compassion? How about liars, cheaters, drunk drivers, murderers, drug addicts, or rapists? What about people who are lazy, mentally ill people, selfish, stingy, or rude? How do you decide what makes a person […]

Two People Can’t Be in Crisis At the Same Time

Two people can’t be in crisis at the same time because crisis is about survival. When you are struggling for survival, you are worried about your own needs. You can’t be there for someone else no matter how much you really want to be. You won’t hear them when their crying.You won’t see them when […]

Is this Sexual Activity Okay?

If a topic appears on my blog, it’s almost always because it is about something I’ve seen repeatedly, said repeatedly, or been asked about repeatedly. With sex becoming more and more casual, there is a lot more grey area about what is and what isn’t appropriate. I hope that this article clears some of that […]

The Six Facets of Connection

There are many ways to feel a connection with someone. We live in a culture where we can think that feeling a spark means that romantic feelings or sex is the natural next step. Attraction doesn’t have to be sexual. Before you go down that road, you might want to explore the six facets of […]

Why Won’t You Talk to Me?

Do you ever want to shake someone and say, “Why won’t you talk to me?” Do you have to repeat yourself? Have you ever wished that your partner, family member, or friend would just pay more attention? This might be one of those times when it’s appropriate to say, “It’s not you. It’s me.” Hear […]

Help! I Can’t Get or Keep a Relationship!

Do you have trouble forming close relationships? If so, this is almost always because you either have a wall around you or you’re trying to have a relationship with someone who has wall (or both). What’s a person with a wall look like? says he wants intimacy, but avoids intimacy and close relationships has few […]

Why People with Unhealthy Boundaries Are Scary

I’ve seen a lot of articles written about boundaries that focus on the person with poor boundaries. Boundary violations and weakness affect not only the person with the unhealthy boundaries. People with unhealthy boundaries are scary for those they come in contact with, too. So let’s take a look at how unhealthy boundaries impact other […]

How to Stop Letting Others Wreck Your Day

Do other people wreck your day?┬áDo you feel like if other people just got their stuff together, you would be fine? Is your day fine until you get around other people? If this sounds like you, this article is for you. Here is how to stop letting others wreck your day. It’s Not About You […]

Defeating Loneliness: How to Create Connection With Others

We often hear that a crowd is the loneliest place. There are a lot of lonely people out there who have other people in their lives. They just don’t feel connected to them. This is really an easy fix. Anyone can learn to create connection with others. Here are the steps to make it happen. […]