Don’t Be a Yes, But-ter…

Are you a yes, but -ter? What is a yes, but?  Yes, but-ting is when you agree with what is being said, then shoot it down. Here are some examples: I know I need to exercise. I just don’t have time. Of course upgrading my job skills would be great, but I don’t have the […]

Embrace Your Duality

The Law of Duality (or Law of Polarity) tells us that all things have what appears to be an opposite. However, the poles are simply extremes of the same thing. For example, we only know light because there is darkness. We know day because there is night. There is wealth and poverty. Using temperature as […]

Effective Problem Solving

One of the reasons why people aren’t enjoying their human experience is that they haven’t learned to use the right skill at the right time for the right problem. All the skills in the world don’t mean a thing if they aren’t skillfully applied. Would you use a hammer to chop a tree down? Would […]

When You Can’t “Just Get Over It”

Resilience. We all have it to some degree. Sometimes it’s easy to bounce back. We’ve all seen it. We’ve probably all experienced it. This can make some people believe that not bouncing back is simply a matter of will. It is not. So, how do you tell the difference when you are just being willful […]

Make Your Weaknesses Your Strengths

Weakness and strength are opposite sides of the same coin. They are a matter of perspective and application. If you are feeling bogged down by your “challenges,” it’s time to see that you can make your weaknesses your strengths. Here is what I mean. First you have to understand what your strengths and weaknesses are. […]

Be Still

Do have questions? Do you want answers? Stop. Be still. The answers you seek are right in front of you. You just have to learn to sense them. The first step is to be still. Still your eyes. We spend a lot of time hiding from the things that we don’t want to see that we […]

How to Beat the Holiday Blues

With Christmas only a week away, the holiday rush is in full swing. For some this means running around buying things that they can’t afford. It could mean packing in activities in an already over scheduled calendar. Some eat too much of the wrong things. Some drink too much. Some get overwhelmed with regret of […]

How To Say What You Need to Say

There are lots of reasons why some people don’t know how to say what they need to say. Sometimes it comes from fear of rejection. Sometimes it is about not knowing what to say. Sometimes it’s fear that the words will be misconstrued and things will be even worse. Staying silent almost always comes down […]

Should I Forgive?

Today is December 6. The view from my eyes says the holiday season has been in full swing for quite a while now. Holiday decorations have been up in stores for weeks. My house is decked out. There are more lights in the neighborhood each night. Radio stations have already begun their non-stop Christmas carols. […]