What Are Your Invisible Rules?

People make meaning out of things to help them make sense of the world. We all construct reality different. Our brains take in information and use whatever else is in our memory banks to decide what the information means. This process results in invisible rules. These invisible rules can either help us or hurt us. When […]

Making Mistakes

I adore people who are willing to make mistakes because those are artists, creators, entrepreneurs, inventors, explorers, conquerors, and people who get to the end of their lives feeling like they have been here. Let’s look at some of the benefit of making mistakes. Making Mindful Mistakes Lead to Growth You can’t grow or create […]

Why Therapy Doesn’t Work

Have you ever wondered why therapy doesn’t work? Why do some people have problems that don’t seem to go away? Why do some people seem to get labeled as “noncompliant” while others seem to follow all suggestions? There are actually really good reasons why therapy doesn’t work. Here are a few: “Noncompliant” Clients When someone […]

For Those Who Don’t Cook…

Those who don’t cook, I ask you to consider the following. Why do you think that courtship often includes an offer to feed the object of your affection? Why do we feed people after a wedding or funeral and during holidays? Why do the people of some cultures offer food to the dead? Food is […]

Don’t Be a Yes, But-ter…

Are you a yes, but -ter? What is a yes, but?  Yes, but-ting is when you agree with what is being said, then shoot it down. Here are some examples: I know I need to exercise. I just don’t have time. Of course upgrading my job skills would be great, but I don’t have the […]

Embrace Your Duality

The Law of Duality (or Law of Polarity) tells us that all things have what appears to be an opposite. However, the poles are simply extremes of the same thing. For example, we only know light because there is darkness. We know day because there is night. There is wealth and poverty. Using temperature as […]

Effective Problem Solving

One of the reasons why people aren’t enjoying their human experience is that they haven’t learned to use the right skill at the right time for the right problem. All the skills in the world don’t mean a thing if they aren’t skillfully applied. Would you use a hammer to chop a tree down? Would […]

When You Can’t “Just Get Over It”

Resilience. We all have it to some degree. Sometimes it’s easy to bounce back. We’ve all seen it. We’ve probably all experienced it. This can make some people believe that not bouncing back is simply a matter of will. It is not. So, how do you tell the difference when you are just being willful […]

Make Your Weaknesses Your Strengths

Weakness and strength are opposite sides of the same coin. They are a matter of perspective and application. If you are feeling bogged down by your “challenges,” it’s time to see that you can make your weaknesses your strengths. Here is what I mean. First you have to understand what your strengths and weaknesses are. […]

Be Still

Do have questions? Do you want answers? Stop. Be still. The answers you seek are right in front of you. You just have to learn to sense them. The first step is to be still. Still your eyes. We spend a lot of time hiding from the things that we don’t want to see that we […]