Stop Using Speech as a Weapon

We live in an age where everyone has a potential audience. Anything you post online could potentially “go viral.” If you comment on a news story, you could find yourself arguing with someone across the world or making a new friend. As with anything, this could be a really positive, unifying thing or an ugly, […]

Review: Weighted Blanket

For those of you who haven’t heard, there is this thing out there called a weighted blanket. The story goes that it was developed by a guy who has a child with sensory issues. They were out driving one day and she put a Beanie Baby on his shoulders. He thought, “Wow, this feels nice. […]

You Can’t Think Your Way to Spirituality

Once there was a well known philosopher and scholar who devoted himself to the study of Zen for many years. On the day that he finally attained enlightenment, he took all of his books out into the yard and burned them all. ~Zen parable A lot of people approach spirituality from a head space. They […]

How to Neutralize Fear

What is Fear? Fear is the expectation of pain. Some fears are instinctual, such as fear of falling/heights and fear of loud noises. All the rest are learned – usually by the age of six. Learned fears are the result of thinking about something in the future and anticipating that it will cause you pain. […]

The Story is Not Important

Trust me when I tell you, the story is not important. Figuring it out, understanding it, or worrying about it won’t make it the pain or the story go away. It won’t make you heal from it. Understanding it doesn’t speed anything along. To illustrate this point, allow me to share a famous story as […]

Keyed Up? Maybe You Need to Play

From the time we are very small children, we are taught to avoid imagination, work hard, get serious, learn, and “act their age.” Even dix year olds spend about eight hours in school! That’s a lot of time growing your brain. That takes away from growing your heart and gut/intuition. That can keep us from […]

How Do You Stay Safe?

We all have ways of staying safe. They are our go to strategies for keeping life from spiraling out of control. Sometimes we make them ways of living. Sometimes we reach for them under stress. Some strategies are more adaptive than others because they help us and others around us. Some strategies are good for […]

Death is Part of Life

Does anyone else ever marvel at how unnatural our lives have become? For example, we send women off to germ filled hospitals to have babies. Up until the 1950s, most births were home births. Now all of sudden birth has become a medical issue. And what about sex? It’s something that our kids find out […]

Feedback is Your Greatest Teacher

Before I was a therapist, I was a dancer and dance teacher. It was through that experience that I learned that feedback┬áis your greatest teacher. When my students and I embarked on our first competition experience, only one of them made it to the podium. Despite the lack of trophies, what we took away was […]

Can You Have Lucid Nightmares?

Lucid dreams are those where you know you are dreaming. That’s it. Lucid dreams tend to have this fantastic association where they are extremely vivid, the laws of physics do not apply, and sensory input is very different. For example, you may taste colors, feel sounds, and know things outside of the regular ways of […]