Be Flexible

Being fixated on an outcome is often applauded in our culture. We call it tenacity, being strong, being focused or maybe driven. When things don’t go according to plan, we can blame ourselves. We may say that we weren’t clear enough in our intention, didn’t work hard enough, or weren’t in alignment with our desire. […]

Why Won’t You Talk to Me?

Do you ever want to shake someone and say, “Why won’t you talk to me?” Do you have to repeat yourself? Have you ever wished that your partner, family member, or friend would just pay more attention? This might be one of those times when it’s appropriate to say, “It’s not you. It’s me.” Hear […]

Don’t Be Afraid of the Dark

Lots of people are afraid of the dark. For some, I mean this literally. For others I mean that they identify their fears and then respond to it as if it were wicked, evil, dangerous, or some other word meaning “bad.” Then they put a lot of energy into avoiding it. Hey, guys. Don’t be […]

Information + Mindfulness + Application = Effectiveness

Every day people ask me, “How do I…” Fortunately there is a formula for this. It’s very simple. It’s information + mindfulness + application = effectiveness. Let’s walk through this to see how it works. Information When you’re dealing with something that you don’t know how to do, solve or understand, the first thing you […]

Embrace The Struggle

Probably every generation of parents desires for their kids to “have it better than we did.” They do things to reduce risk and create comfort. Even those kids who didn’t grow up with loving parents and comfortable situations had the benefit of sociological change that made things easier than it was for those who came […]

Using Mantras to Cope and Heal

Mantras are a great way to cope, heal, and inspire growth. What’s a mantra? A mantra is an often repeated word, formula, or phrase. To turn it into a magical tool, choose words that are be positive, short, general, and personal. When you say them, you must be fully present and say your mantra as if […]

Why Talk Therapy Helps

In some circles, going to talk therapy still carries a stigma. It’s seen as something that “weak” or “crazy” people do. Therapy is for everyone! If you’re not stable, it’s definitely helpful. If you are just not your highest and best self, it can help to get you there. Here’s why. Gives Social Contact People are […]

How to Get a Win/Win Solution Every Time

If you want your relationships to thrive, you have to be able to deal with conflict. Getting to a win/win solution always makes all parties happy because everyone gets what he wants. So how do you do that? Let’s take a look. Be Willing to Talk If one person is not willing to talk, you […]

How To Do Stuff

There are a lot of people who don’t know how to do stuff. I am talking about every day life skills that help your life run smoothly and easily. Maybe they weren’t taught. It could be that they don’t have enough experience with doing new things that they don’t have context to figure it out. […]

Your Feelings Are Not a Reflection of Reality

Your feelings are not a reflection of reality. They are a reflection of your thoughts, lifestyle (diet, sleep, whether or not you exercise, etc.), and emotional habits. If an acorn falls on my head and I think, “The sky is going to fall,” I respond with fear. If an acorn falls on my head and […]