Face It. Feel It.

Gone With the Wind is a fabulous movie. It’s a timeless look at humanity. One of the strongest scenes is when Scarlett is seen in the arms of her brother in law, Ashley. Her husband, Rhett Butler, won’t allow his disgraced wife to hide. He demands that she go to Melanie’s party and show her […]

Cultivate a Work Ethic

One of the most harmful ideas promoted in the 90s was “Follow Your Bliss.” It makes it seem like happiness is the reason for living and if your work doesn’t make you happy, you’re failing. You’re in the wrong job. You’re missing out. Maybe you’re even a sap for degrading yourself and settling for less. […]

Living a Debt Free Life

If you want to live well, it’s beneficial to cultivate a debt free life. Debt happens in a few ways. You arrange to accept something now in exchange for repayment later – usually at a higher price. Someone gives you something of value, and you have not given something in exchange. This may not be […]

You Might Have Rigid Boundaries If…

I’ve posted a lot about boundaries lately that focus on establishing barriers between oneself and others. As with most things, you can either have too little or too much. In this article, we will focus on what it looks like to have boundaries that are too rigid. Boundaries are learned. If we don’t learn how […]

Follow Your Wild Heart

I see a lot of people who feel like they don’t fit in, that they don’t belong where they are. They endure superficial conversations because the people around them don’t see them and can’t relate to them. Maybe they are lonely because they aren’t interested in what’s popular or trendy. There is a lot of […]

Tips for Handling Invalidating Comments

If you’re in an environment of disrespect, it can make it really hard for you to function. This is really stressful. There are some thing you can do to make it easier. Here are some tips for handling invalidating comments. Give responses that: reflect YOUR thoughts, feeling, and needs show respect – both self-respect and […]

Who Deserves Compassion?

Who deserves compassion? Can we draw a line separating those who are worthy from those who are not? Are pedophiles worthy of compassion? How about liars, cheaters, drunk drivers, murderers, drug addicts, or rapists? What about people who are lazy, mentally ill people, selfish, stingy, or rude? How do you decide what makes a person […]

Two People Can’t Be in Crisis At the Same Time

Two people can’t be in crisis at the same time because crisis is about survival. When you are struggling for survival, you are worried about your own needs. You can’t be there for someone else no matter how much you really want to be. You won’t hear them when their crying.You won’t see them when […]

Ten Pick Me Ups for When You Don’t Have Time to Be Cranky

All emotions are normal. We all feel angry, happy, sad, worried, frustrated, cranky, and everything in between. But sometimes we don’t have the luxury of feeling what we are feeling. We just have to snap out of it so that we can focus and be effective. Here are ten pick me ups for when you […]

How to Deal With Stupid, Ugly, Hateful People

Are you surrounded by stupid, ugly, hateful people? Do you need some tips on how to deal with them. Keep reading. This article is for you! I hate to break it to you, but if you read this headline and thought, “Yes! I need those tips!” your number one problem is your thinking. If you […]