Why Did I Do That?

Everyone has times in their lives when they say, “Why did I do that?” and just can’t figure things out. When this is you, try applying a behavior chain analysis to shed some light on things. Not sure what that is? Read on! A behavior chain analysis is a method for looking at linked things […]

Sensitivity is Not Reactivity

Sensitivity is not reactivity. Sensitivity is the ability to perceive stimuli. Reactivity is about responsiveness to stimuli. The two are not the same, nor do they always go hand in hand. Let’s take a look at them separately to see what I mean. Sensitivity As with all things, there an be too much or too […]

How to Live a Life of Courage

“Courage is going from failure to failure without losing enthusiasm.” ~Winston Churchill Winston Churchill was a brilliant speaker. This is one of my favorite quotes of his because for me, it captures the essence of what it means to have courage. Courage isn’t the ability to live without fear. It’s not even solely the willingness […]

Conquering the Two Faces of Anxiety

Anxiety has two faces. If you understand what they both are, you have a shot at overcoming them.┬áSo let’s start by defining the first face. This type of anxiety is a feeling of foreboding that shows up for no reason. You don’t know when it will start or when it will go away. This type […]

Be Willing to Be Wrong

We live in a culture that is obsessed with winning. Being number one is a high pressure game. Who remembers who got the silver medal? It’s either win or die! But what if you were willing to be second? What would happen if you were willing to be wrong? Actually a whole lot of good […]

Be Flexible

Being fixated on an outcome is often applauded in our culture. We call it tenacity, being strong, being focused or maybe driven. When things don’t go according to plan, we can blame ourselves. We may say that we weren’t clear enough in our intention, didn’t work hard enough, or weren’t in alignment with our desire. […]

Why Won’t You Talk to Me?

Do you ever want to shake someone and say, “Why won’t you talk to me?” Do you have to repeat yourself? Have you ever wished that your partner, family member, or friend would just pay more attention? This might be one of those times when it’s appropriate to say, “It’s not you. It’s me.” Hear […]

Don’t Be Afraid of the Dark

Lots of people are afraid of the dark. For some, I mean this literally. For others I mean that they identify their fears and then respond to it as if it were wicked, evil, dangerous, or some other word meaning “bad.” Then they put a lot of energy into avoiding it. Hey, guys. Don’t be […]

Information + Mindfulness + Application = Effectiveness

Every day people ask me, “How do I…” Fortunately there is a formula for this. It’s very simple. It’s information + mindfulness + application = effectiveness. Let’s walk through this to see how it works. Information When you’re dealing with something that you don’t know how to do, solve or understand, the first thing you […]

Embrace The Struggle

Probably every generation of parents desires for their kids to “have it better than we did.” They do things to reduce risk and create comfort. Even those kids who didn’t grow up with loving parents and comfortable situations had the benefit of sociological change that made things easier than it was for those who came […]