Is it You or Is It Me?

Do you ever scratch your head in confusion and say, “Is it you or is it me?” Of course! We all do. But how do you figure out the answer? Here are some steps that can help. Get Mindful If you want to see a situation clearly, you have to remove the things that make […]

Why Everyone Needs Sacred Space

Creating sacred space is so important for healthy individuals, families, and societies. So, what is sacred space? It’s an energetic cocoon of safety where you know that whatever you say, feel, or do will be accepted nonjudgmentally. It’s a place to feel like a equal and stand in your power. This is something we don’t […]

Can I Get a Witness?

One thing we don’t do well as a culture is witness. Witnessing is being present with someone and allowing them to have their thoughts and feeling without feeling like you have to respond. Silence gives people space to hear their own thoughts. A thought in your head isn’t the same thing as a thought that […]

Tips for Handling Invalidating Comments

If you’re in an environment of disrespect, it can make it really hard for you to function. This is really stressful. There are some thing you can do to make it easier. Here are some tips for handling invalidating comments. Give responses that: reflect YOUR thoughts, feeling, and needs show respect – both self-respect and […]

How to Identify Your Invisible Rules

Imagine if we had to talk out everything to make sense of things. We’d be exhausted by 9:00 a.m!¬†Fortunately our invisible rules¬†act as guideposts to help us get through life. When it works, it’s fantastic. When it doesn’t, it can be a disaster. However, since our rules are invisible, it can be tough to know […]

How to Ask Fantastic Questions

If you want to be a great communicator, you have to ask fantastic questions. Great teachers, coaches, therapists, and parents are great because they ask great questions. If you want to grow quickly or have fulfilling relationships, you have to ask fantastic questions. This works in reverse as well. If you are not getting the […]

Why Won’t You Talk to Me?

Do you ever want to shake someone and say, “Why won’t you talk to me?” Do you have to repeat yourself? Have you ever wished that your partner, family member, or friend would just pay more attention? This might be one of those times when it’s appropriate to say, “It’s not you. It’s me.” Hear […]