How to Neutralize Fear

What is Fear? Fear is the expectation of pain. Some fears are instinctual, such as fear of falling/heights and fear of loud noises. All the rest are learned – usually by the age of six. Learned fears are the result of thinking about something in the future and anticipating that it will cause you pain. […]

Aho! Mitakuye Oyasin

Aho! Mitakuye Oyasin is a simple yet deeply meaningful statement. It is Lakota for “all my relations” and recognizes the human, plant, animal, mineral, and ancestor relatives. It is an acknowledgment that all are one. It is spoken during prayer and ceremony to petition God on behalf of everyone and everything on Earth. Mitakuye Oyasin honours […]

The Story is Not Important

Trust me when I tell you, the story is not important. Figuring it out, understanding it, or worrying about it won’t make it the pain or the story go away. It won’t make you heal from it. Understanding it doesn’t speed anything along. To illustrate this point, allow me to share a famous story as […]

Mental Health Begins Before Birth

Mental health begins before birth. It’s true. Think of it like gardening. You can’t plant seeds in infertile soil and expect them to grow, right? Gardeners know that soil preparation is very important if you want a good harvest. Growing humans is the same. The time to prepare is well before any seeds are planted. […]

PTSD is Not Just For the Military

When you know something for a while, you can think that it is common knowledge. That’s why I was surprised when I heard someone say that she thought that Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) was something that only soldiers have. No! PTSD is not just for the military. It’s not just for men. PTSD can […]

Keyed Up? Maybe You Need to Play

From the time we are very small children, we are taught to avoid imagination, work hard, get serious, learn, and “act their age.” Even dix year olds spend about eight hours in school! That’s a lot of time growing your brain. That takes away from growing your heart and gut/intuition. That can keep us from […]