Four Times to Disobey the Reciprocity Rule

The Reciprocity Rule The Reciprocity Rule is a common societal norm that supposes that when you receive something, you return something of equal value. This can be material or emotional. This generally works to everyone’s advantage. When you give me good value, I return to your business and am a happy customer. When you give […]

Are You Being Haunted By Yourself?

The Christmas Carol is the fictional story of miserly old Ebenezer Scrooge. He was haunted by the ghosts of his Christmas past, present, and future. They reminded him of who he was and where his path was leading to give him a second chance at making other choices. We don’t tend to associate Christmas with […]

Don’t Worry. Be Happy.

Remember that song “Don’t Worry. Be Happy”? I used to really hate it. I thought it was the worst song in the world. It was silly, simple, and not very creative. Still, I couldn’t help but notice that it was just catchy enough to get me whistling, singing, and feeling better every time I heard […]

Lonely? Get Connected!

Loneliness is a state of mind that occurs when a person feels emotionally disconnected. Contributing factors are physical isolation (like-minded people aren’t nearby), low self-esteem and shyness (which keeps you from reaching out and accepting overtures from others), technology (such as texting and email which decreases face to face contact), feelings of uniqueness (which contribute […]

PMS is a Mental Disorder?

The DSM-5* is now stating that PMS is a mental disorder. I guess that means that as of May 2013, half the population has been classified as disabled by virtue of their gender. Hm… As a woman and a mental health professional, I have a problem with seeing natural parts of life as pathological. Aging is […]

Start Your New Year With a Day of Being

What is your New Year’s day tradition? Do you sleep half of it away? Clean the house? Watch football? How about shaking things up? Start a new tradition with a day of being. What is a day of being? It’s a day to feel your feelings, hear your thoughts, be present and enjoy reality just […]

Is It Passion or Obsession?

We all long to feel passion We are promised by the sages that if we follow our passion, we will accomplish great things, fulfill dreams, and find happiness. But are passion and obsession the same thing? On the outside, passion can look very much like obsession, but there are important distinctions. Passion is a life […]

15 Habits of Happy People

Everybody has their “thing” that they do very well. Mine is being happy. Since we all view the world through our own lens, it took me a while to realize that everyone doesn’t wake up happy. I’m sharing my list of things that happy people have in common in hopes that it will help those […]

Make Thanksgiving a Lifestyle

America celebrated its first nationwide day of thanks in 1789 under the leadership of our first president, George Washington. However, it wasn’t until Abraham Lincoln was president that our country had its first official Thanksgiving holiday. It’s evolved since then to include football, pre-shopping, parades, feasting, as well as setting aside a moment to express […]

Are You Crazy or Do You Have Celiac Disease?

A few years back I received a call from a concerned daughter. Near tears she reported that her family was at the end of the rope. Her mom was acting erratically and was experiencing wild mood swings. One moment she was depressed, crying, and sleeping a lot. The next she was more enthusiastic and hyperactive […]